friend of mine been marriage for about 4years they already have 2kids.suddenly the wife(my friend)felt afraid for the financial future of their kids.the couples talked about possibilities for the financial suggesting abroads etc.etc.,but the husband suddenly said that "hey let us wait for our fortune when it comes it comes,and what we have right now let us stick to it."Then the wife realized that the man he married has no ambition in life.thats the time that the wife(my friend)felt out of love of him.When she woke up she realized its not the same person she married 4years ago.
2006-11-30 00:40:15 · 14 answers · asked by ? 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes, that is one of the reasons that so many people who have been married for many years are getting a divorce.
2006-11-30 00:43:17 · answer #1 · answered by redbull_photo 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not an acceptable reason to put the children in a divided household. Nothing prevents her from pursuing her own ambitions while being married. Leaving him will help her HOW?
She will be a single parent depending upon what to sustain her and her children? The emotional upheaval is for what? Is it her intent to find a another man with ambition and money? Good luck finding one that isn't already taken or who is willing to take on her and the 2 kids. What's in it for him? What is she bringing to the table? Lust dissipates; Love encompasses all things and though she may be disappointed in her choice; she made a vow and she has to consider the kids first. If he is a lazy , alcoholic, drug, and sex addict or even an physically abusive person then by all means she should abandon ship.
2006-11-30 01:04:04 · answer #2 · answered by GrnApl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
getting to know someone is a very gradual process and cannot happen overnight. i guess ur friend knows her husband a lot better than she did before their marriage. like peeling layers of an onion. the same person may look different as u look closer.
also, people do not change so much as circumstances do. what ur friend means by her husband 'not being the same person' is that she is seeing him under a completely new light. i doubt if her husband really has undergone such a big change.
2006-11-30 01:45:37 · answer #3 · answered by placebo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I do believe that you can wake up and realize that you don't love the person beside you. Although when we meet that special person and think our love will last forever. It doesn't always work out that way because of bad conditions in a relationship can make you fall out of love with that person even if you don't want to.
2006-11-30 01:40:33 · answer #4 · answered by Susie B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, exact same thing happened to me and I left him. He didn't give me a choice. Took away my car and wouldn't alow me to work for extra income, so I left and made it work for me and my kids. Yes, it is very hard on the kids if they are old enough to understand. My daughter was 1 and son was 4....its been 3 years and it's still a little hard for my son to come to terms with it but its more because his father doesn't want to see them anymore. But on the other hand I have a friend who is just staying until she is finacially able to leave. They sleep in seperate rooms and work opposite shifts to spend their own thime with the kids. Good luck to your friend, I know its not an easy situation.
2006-11-30 02:22:04 · answer #5 · answered by jessica_atherton2006 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's still the same person she married. Your friend had developed an unrealistic idea of the man she married. All he did was show her the reality. She should have gotten to know him before she married him, because if she had, she wouldn't have been surprised.
2006-11-30 00:44:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He does nt deserve a 2d hazard .If somebody is inebriated he could atmost kiss somebody accidently yet accidently no you are able to truly have a actual relarionship . he will do tha lower back, replace your companion. he's a cheater.
2016-12-29 17:08:31 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you just all the sudden wake up one day and realize that you don't love someone anymore. Its a gradual thing.
2006-11-30 01:21:37 · answer #8 · answered by guardianangel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
expectations of things, or how they feel it should be changes alot of things. she has a different perception of what she wants, and thinks he cannot meet it, so she has lost respect for him, and believes she doesn't love him anymore. difference of opinions on how they should live can cause this. she no longer feels safe, and feels she is missing something.
2006-12-02 12:25:51 · answer #9 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes...then I left him. Most stay for 5 more years!! Or 10...How sad.
2006-11-30 00:42:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋