My mom is kinda cool, a great mom. She's a modern woman, a byologist. She strongly encourages me and my 11 yo sister to go to college in the future and become independent women. But in some points she's kinda traditional, so she's a bit overprotective, but I know ot's out of love. Though she's graduated she thinks some of the tradional female roles should be preserved, so, in addition to what modern girsl do, like playing sports, etc, we had to learn a bit about sewing and cooking. When we do our chores at home we have to wear those tradional frilly pinafores with a bowl in the back. She got me and my sister some of them and loves to see us wearing them. Sometimes we have to keep them on even when we're having dinner or lunch or doing anything else. I get embarrassed, but to mom this kinda important. When we're not doing chores, we're not exactly forced to wear them, but we end up keeping them on just to make her happy, cause she asks w/ love .What should I do?
2006-11-30 00:37:09 · 23 answers · asked by Sonia 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Ummmmm that sounds really strange to me that you would have to wear anything like that at all.....
What day and age was ur mom raised in???
What country are you in that your mom would require you wear those when doing your chores?
2006-11-30 00:39:20 · answer #1 · answered by Jessie D. 3 · 0⤊ 4⤋
That's sweet that you try to make your mother happy at your own expense and in the long run, it will be good for YOU later. It also protects your clothes so that when the guys start coming around you can quickly lose the pinafore you've been cleaning in and have clean clothes to greet them. Just don't get so used to having them on that you forget to take them off before you answer the door. Hopefully your mother will realize that your growing up and not mind if you're wearing them at your own discretion. It's really a grown-up thing to do to wear an apron to protect your clothes when your cooking and things like that. Maybe let your mother know that you would like something that makes you feel a little more mature now that your a teenager. And hope that your little sister won't mind humoring her for a couple more years until she's a teenager. I don't know what the pinafores look like, but frilly is not always babyish. She may just want you to look feminine.
2006-11-30 09:00:43 · answer #2 · answered by Angel L 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It does sound as if you and your mother have a good relationship. That's great and it will be important to you over these next few years, particularly.
I suggest that you continue to wear the aprons during related chores, but not beyond. Perhaps her "need" for you to do so will wear off. If no changes are forthcoming, in about 4-6 months you could say something about it to her. Explain how much you love her, that you value her showing you how to do these things, but that you aren't comfortable wearing the aprons and would like to drop them from the routine.
Be respectful and I'll bet she comes around.
2006-11-30 16:28:36 · answer #3 · answered by Shars 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I love to hear that your Mom still believes in wholesome traditions & values that she probably grew up with and teaching you to follow how she grew up.
You may not agree with her, but if you just do as she wishes now, soon enough you'll be old enough to do as _you_ want. Respect for her is very important and it's not like any of this is bad for you. It's just for a short time anyway.
I think YOU might feel better if you found a good time to talk to her _in a nice & respectful way_ [I mean she will -always- be your Mother!] and let your mom know how you love her very much =but= you're very uncomfortable wearing the things that you have to wear to do chores & and ask if you could do that less often. I really think your mom will consider your wishes if you ask her to "Sleep On It", and let you know sometime the next day. :))
2006-11-30 08:41:42 · answer #4 · answered by Chuck S 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I think that it is nice to see a girl think her mom is kinda cool.Most kids your age would not.I think if you sit down, and talk to your mom and explain to her how it makes you feel to wear the pinafores she will understand.Just tell her what you just said. As a mom of an 11 year old i would most likely understand and tell her that she no longer has to wear them. Your mom should be proud of you. Good luck,and GOD BLESS.
2006-11-30 09:19:09 · answer #5 · answered by mom0195 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ya know sweetie, Don't listen to these people that are replying with rude comments. Your concerned that your going to hurt your moms feelings and that is sweet. I think these posters forgot that your ONLY 13!!!!!!!!!!. Just let your mom know how you feel and tell her that you love her and that your uncomfortable with wearing the things that you have to wear to clean and ask if you could stop. I am sure that she'll listen and if certain people on here would of read your first line it would of said that you were embarrassed to post this but you still did and I give you a lot of credit for that.
2006-11-30 08:47:37 · answer #6 · answered by ws_422 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
your mom is doing her role in educating and protecting u. she is doing a good job teaching u values.
it does seem like she is a bit controlling, since she is a modern woman talk to her about this. tell her u would like a choice in whether or not to use the pinafores. i mean if u listen to her on everything else she should listen to u. its not a really big deal if u guys don't wear it.
2006-11-30 08:43:57 · answer #7 · answered by Miki 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is weird. My mom traditonal and very protective and she do belive in teaching me to sew and cook too but i dont have 2 dress like that or anything why do she do that?? When i do chores i just wear normal clothes or sometims apron if i must do dishes. That sound very strange she make you to do that.
2006-11-30 12:40:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, just be grateful she doesn't make you wear them in public, now THAT would be awful!
Sounds like your mom really loves you and is doing a great job raising you. I don't think wearing those things for a few hours is all that bad, it's a small sacrifice.
2006-11-30 08:47:22 · answer #9 · answered by Cookie On My Mind 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I really don't know how you feel, but I'm a 13 year old girl and that would be kind of embarrassing. I think that if it embarrasses you that you should tell your mom. I don't know how your mom would take that, but if she loves you, she won't make you do something that you don't want to do.
2006-11-30 09:11:45 · answer #10 · answered by Thing H. 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell your mother exactly what you wrote here. You speak of her sweetness, her love and your love for her. She sounds to be an open minded mother and I am confident if you express to her your true inner feelings about this she will rethink this as well. You have a great mother. Talk to her
2006-11-30 10:45:02 · answer #11 · answered by chattylady47150 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋