it so happens that she is better than me in all fields...not that i am jealus but still, she influences all my decisions...and i sometimes feel inferior...and 24x7 i keep thinking how to improve myself...i know she is not proudy at all and she is my best friend but because of her personality(too good i must say) she invites all kinds of troubles (especially guy ones) and we have to share the trouble together..not that i m being selfish not to share her trouble, but it keeps me in stress! So should i be a little distant from her..i mean just a friend?
2006-11-30 00:36:56 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
It seems as if you are in her shadow, and have been for some time. It's time, I guess, for you to start shining on your own and casting your own shadows. This may not go over very well with your friend, and if it doesn't, that's too bad. You're growing up, finding out that you have more to offer the world around you than you realize. You're realizing that you need to be thinking for yourself, regardless of the opinion of your BF. Good for you! Stay friends, if possible, but walk your own path. Don't feel selfish, either; your life is yours to live. Move out of her orbit, and don't feel guilty about, and don't let her make you feel guilty, either.
Good Luck! Have Fun!
Peace...
2006-11-30 00:48:56 · answer #1 · answered by The Mystic One 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problem.
My best friend is just like that.
She is so smart but it's all booksmarts.
She can hardly make toast without doing it but she is studying medicine.
I wasn't ever jealous of her, I just felt a little, stupid around her.
Even though I'm a great cook and I am smart. I'm good with animals and I have plenty of friends.
She also seems to get any guy she wants including the guys I like.
However, not all the time. Some people can see she just wants to feed her huge ego.
She attracts some shady characers and while I try to warn her about them she never listens. Then I get half the blame for what ever the outcome is.
We endend up having a fight and broke contact for 7 months.
I recently started hanging out with her again and she hasn't changed a bit.
I don't think distance does anygood. These people never change.
All we can do is try not to get too involved.
2006-11-30 08:55:50 · answer #2 · answered by specs appeal 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if this is the only reason, then in my opinion stay best friends with her. from the way you talked about her "she is too good", shows that you like her a lot as a friend and it also shows that you still want to remain best friends with her. Remember that true friends are like diamonds, precious but rare, false friends are like autumn leaves, found everywhere.
you do not have to improve yourself just because she is a bit different than you! everybody has a different character. i am sure that you have a lot of good qualities in you so you do not have to feel inferior at all.
with regards to her troubles, try to help her when you can, after all she is your friend, but if sometimes you feel that you can't handle her, you should talk to her calmly and tell her what you feel.
Good luck
2006-11-30 09:22:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
U definitely should start thinking for urself. Do what u feel is right do not let her influence ur decisions. Try & make her understand that u need ur own space. But b there 4 her when she needs u. Do not leave her coz that would b selfish.
2006-11-30 09:04:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok because she is your best friend you dont need to be involve in every problem or trouble she's in especially if its stress you out. Let her know that her troubles are stressing you out and your tired of it. you need to build up your self esteem, take control over your life, you don't have to go with every thing she says or do. start makin your own decisions by yourself with out her input. do things to help build your confidence. you can do all this and she will become more your friend rather than your dictator.
2006-11-30 09:28:04 · answer #5 · answered by Kay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would talk to her about how you feel(that proply sounded really gay). Tell her that you feel inferor. I mean she probly doesn't know it or wount beable to do anything about it but at least she can lighten up about her"troubles" If you just all of a sudden start not wanting to be her friend, then she'll always wonder, "what did i do wrong?"
2006-11-30 08:42:06 · answer #6 · answered by Angela 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i had a friend like you,...i have always felt that such friends shud not stay together. she was jealous of me too often! i got tired n i wish n wish she was not my friend. later this feeling will grow into jealousy and then bitterness....either change urself or ur go away.
2006-11-30 08:40:11 · answer #7 · answered by catty 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes.. Be yourself, and obviously you can't do it while hanging out with her all the time!! Just do your own thing sometimes.. Good luck to you
2006-11-30 08:38:22 · answer #8 · answered by Kat0312 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes you have right to think for yourself.
But be there when she needs you.
Coz this is the rule of friendship you dont have right to break it.
Best Luck...
2006-11-30 08:41:50 · answer #9 · answered by Abhi 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i know what ur going through my friend is doing the exact same thing! right now i just suck it up and i vent a lot to my friends trust me it helps to vent!
2006-11-30 08:41:33 · answer #10 · answered by The bored and hyper one 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋