im 25 & my sisters 39 when i was 6 my mum left me with my dad but took my sis with her.& when i was 16 she wanted me back i stayed with her for a year & then she past me back 2 my dad.then i got a house be side her when i was 20 we have been really close until a few weeks ago.when ever i call her she doesnt want 2 talk 2 me because my sis is there and now i feel that my sis is trying 2 take her away from me again.what can i do?i have tried 2 talk 2 her but it goes in 1 ear & out the other.
2006-11-29 23:30:38 · 17 answers · asked by pauline_rk 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Best thing in my opinion you can do is sit your mum down, without your sister around and tell her exactly how you're feeling.
It must be difficult when your mum took your sister but left you behind to stay with your dad and i think these feelings of resentment from that time are cropping back up and will continue to until you get it all off your chest and ask your mother why she did this and explain how you are feeling now!!
Good Luck hun!!! xxx
***and in response to the answer above... We dont know the full circumstances of the situation so telling someone their mum "doesn't appear to care" i think is wrong!!! You cannot say that without knowing ALL the facts and i dont think that is a very helpful answer, if i could rate that'd get a thumbs down!!!***
Just talk to you mum honey, even if things dont change youl feel better for getting it all off your chest once and for all :)
BEST OF LUCK AGAIN!! xxx
2006-11-29 23:39:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel so sorry for you, what a sad life you have had,passed from pillar to post back and forth.
You seem as though you've turned out to be a caring loving girl,regardless of this, but you are obviouly very insecure and I can see the reason why.
Under the circumstances I cannot see why you wanted to live so near to your mother after her continual rejection of you.
I don't know your mother,but going by what you have said,she obviously did'nt want a young child who she had to take care of with her,she took your sister at 2O and then wanted you at 16.
You are going to endure constant rejection from your mother when it suits her, which is so unfair.Do you not have a family of your own yet?
If you do, in my opinion I would give your mother a wide berth,by moving,why torture yourself anymore.She's obviously not worth it in my opinion,I would never treat either of my children any differently I love them both the same, and I most definitely would never have left one of my children behind. I think her maternal instincts leave a lot to be desired.
It's no good living in a rival situation with your sister,live your own life and let your mum and sister get on with theirs, it will be their loss not yours.
God bless, you deserve better.
2006-12-03 06:36:27 · answer #2 · answered by animalwatch 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have u ever asked urself or her for that matter why she left u with ur dad and took ur sister? or why she passed u back wen u were 16/17 ? maybe ur sister feels now that u are back on the scene ur mum won't want her... so she is feelin insecure or jealous.... but ur mother is a grown woman and she can make her own choices and if she doesn't want to talk or know u then it is her loss.... you should have it out with ur mother and tell her she can't keep treating u like this as it hurts u so much and if she doesn't want to change then save urself the heartache of trying and get on with ur life and wen she is ready she will come to u then it is ur choice whether u want her back in ur life or not.... but don't blame it all on ur sister cause she is prob just as confused and scared as uare.....
2006-11-30 07:39:10 · answer #3 · answered by angelindisguise 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry but your Mum doesn't appear to care. She seems to want you for a little while, but then decides to pass you back when she's bored. My advice would be to approach her and be honest about your feelings if she continues to ignore you then turn the tables. Next time she wants you as an emotional support I'd be less inclined to be there for her because lets be honest when has she been there for you?
2006-11-30 07:39:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
people saying move on with your life isn't going to help your problem.and it will only make you go crazy with questions i.e why isn't my mum talking, was it something I've done. my advice would be to try talking to your sister, about your mum tell her how you have felt over the years,and how your feeling now. if your mum isn't talk to you face to face the best why to say how shes making you feel and to ask her whats happening is by writing it down on paper. i hope this helps good luck
2006-11-30 07:42:20 · answer #5 · answered by dragontears 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go 2 ur moms house and try 2 talk to ur sis and ask her wats the problem why doesn't she want u 2 talk 2 ur mom any more.
GOOD LUCK
2006-11-30 07:36:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well try talking to your sister if that dont work then talk to your mum otherwise try and talk to your dad maybe he can help the situation Good luck
2006-11-30 07:33:54 · answer #7 · answered by laura j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're writing as if you're 10 and not 25----you live next door---my GOD---Maybe your MOM needs some space---Get a life my dear and establish friends and a circle of social friends to do things with. Your jealousy (green envy) will do much harm----Maybe you perceive yourself as talking to your MOM but maybe what you're really doing is nagging---
Let you MOM reach out to you and call you-----the best response is none!
2006-11-30 07:36:38 · answer #8 · answered by aunt_beeaa 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Your mom sounds as though she's the one that needs help! Tell her (and your sister) how you feel, then move on with your life!
2006-11-30 07:38:21 · answer #9 · answered by MHB 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
move away from them
they never wanted u from the beginning
go somewhere and live a peaceful life and don't let them
trouble u anymore
2006-12-03 11:22:49 · answer #10 · answered by me 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋