anybody,everbody please help!! im at my wits end...i had a 5 month child to a guy and he wants nothing to do with his son!! he said maybe in 12 months he will have changed his mind!!!! i feel so sorry for my son but don't know what else to do!! i email this guy every other day and send him pictures but he never responds!! he has other kids from a previous marriage that he continues to see!!! when i was with the guy i never disrespected his kids and treated them really well....why is he being like this with my child..HIS SON??.....I don't know what else i can say or do?? HE DOE'SNT EVEN PAY ANYTHING TOWARDS HIS UPKEEP...BUT THATS SORTED MY SOLICITOR IS ON TO IT!!!
2006-11-29 23:27:20 · 10 answers · asked by chick07 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I'm sorry to hear of your predicament ..It looks like you are learning a important lesson .. some guys have their fun and then head for the hills .. There isn't anything you can do to force him to see take is responsibilities seriously,.its something he has to want to do.
I think the more you try to get him to face up to things the more he will want to pull away and have even less to do with you.
You may be has well forgetting him and move on with your life and know in your won mind one certain fact that its his loss..
2006-11-30 00:14:36 · answer #1 · answered by robert x 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was a single mother. My son is 30 now so it is all over. His father and I were together for 1 year my parents made me get married. Anyway after the year I got a place for my son and I and I was always upset for my son because his dad never came to see him. Then later on when my son was 5 his father had a daughter by another women and he brought the child over one day when my son was like 12 to meet each other my son was very shocked due to the fact that in the 12 years he had only seen his father maybe twice and his father never supported him one day in his life. Now my son is older and has kids of his own. And all the years I worried about him was for nothing he is very strong and that is because. Me and my family showed him so much love when he was growing up. I was mommy and daddy and that is what he tells everyone now he calls me on fathers day to say happy fathers day and we laugh. He does not need his dad and if his dad has that attitude then you do not want him around your child anyway he will be better off without him. You can do it and you can be mom and dad also. It is not easy but trust me in the long run doing it alone will be all worth it. Dont try to make his dad care that will only hurt your son in the end. And never tell him anything bad about his dad he can make his own judgements when he grows up. Just be supportive and keep him in sports and chruch and you will be the Queen/King in the end. Good Luck you have a long hard road ahead but I am sure you can do it. I Did.
2006-11-29 23:38:12 · answer #2 · answered by Virginia B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, why would you want him to have anything to do with your son if he doesn't want to accept the responsibility? Most likely if he ever does, it will be with regret and he may end up being a bad influence or worse yet, hurting him.
I've been there done that...have a 16 year old whose sperm donor cheated on me while I was pregnant so I kicked him out. Then he eventually wanted to see my son, and it was sporadic over the years. Now he only wants to see him so my son can help him on some job. He owes over $16,000 in child support and has been driving without a license for 7 years cuz they suspended it for the child support he owed.
Every bad habit my son has is a direct reflection of the sperm donor...so why would you want to take that risk? You are much better off raising him by yourself and fighting for support. You will then have control of him at all times. You will be teaching him, supporting him as he grows, giving the type of discipline that you desire and YOU will reap ALL of the rewards because he will tell you that you have always been there for him someday.
Then you have to think how you will feel when he is gone with his father and is around another woman....can you handle that? I know that most situations like this work out for the best but I am much happier, and so is my son, with limited contact. I wish you and your son much happiness throughout life.
2006-11-29 23:37:51 · answer #3 · answered by nancy w 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Too bad it came to lawyers. Maybe the guy is just not sure that the kid is his. Give him time. If he has some decency, he'll come around. If not, then it is your mistake you played the role of a cheap woman to an unworthy man.
2006-11-30 00:14:20 · answer #4 · answered by seek_fulfill 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get your solicitor to sort it out he needs to pay for his kids and also see them. He can be sent to a contact centre to make sure he keeps this up regularly. but please seek advice from your solicitor about this.
Good luck
2006-12-02 07:41:46 · answer #5 · answered by Angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i been throw the same thing you been throw i got two kids and i was married for 5 years and he had affair with other woman and he didnt want to now he kids ever and you now what did i went straight to my lawya and went to court and and made him pay for what he did to me and my children and i ran him over he still alive but just got two broken his 2 legs but live if you ever what to talk im here for you and he broken me and my kids heart he doesnt ever to now he kids if you ever want to talk to me laceygaskin@yahoo.co.uk
2006-11-29 23:37:04 · answer #6 · answered by laceyjo b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
poke it he ain't worth bothering about sounds like he'd make a crap dad anyway move on and find somebody to love you and your child
2006-12-03 03:18:59 · answer #7 · answered by doozer_princess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HE MUST PAY CHILD SUPPORT
JUST IGNORE HIM
HE SOUNDS LIKE A REAL JERK
2006-11-30 00:06:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he is like this to your kid. what is he like to you?
2006-11-29 23:31:47 · answer #9 · answered by Mother of Tae Kwon Do 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is an a..
2006-11-29 23:30:24 · answer #10 · answered by iamlsu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋