How can I stop making bad choices in the men I choose? I have been married three times now and I keep getting the same type of person. I want a man that is relaxed and will be spontaneous. A man that won’t make demands that I cook or clean.
I want a man who won’t complain about my being a pack rat. That likes to go out and eat, go to concerts, and football games. Who likes to travel and enjoy life. A man that doesn’t whine just because I run up the credit cards, and constantly go over my cell plans minutes.
I like to talk to my parents and sister, we can’t be a family if we don’t talk and a few hours a day is not that much. He should love children and be willing to watch my Son and be a fine Christian example for him. He should be willing to adopt my son and raise him as his own.
He should not demand that I have to chip in. A man should support his family and my money is mine. And he should not be a sexual freak; he should want me for me and not whine about my weight. Isn’t straight sex enough? I’m not into anything weird, He should be happy that I give him access on a monthly bases, I should not have to work at providing pleasure, after all a women is the flower and the man is the gardener.
Is there not a “Normal” real man left?
2006-11-29 22:29:43 · 8 answers · asked by Sharmayne H 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
What you have described is not a "normal" man. That is "abnormal", i.e. "rare". The first few things are okay, the eating out, the concerts, the football games, but the next few things sound a little high-strung. Do you have spending problems? Debt can seriously ruin your life. And if you constantly go over your cell plan minutes, switch to an unlimited plan - believe me, it'll save you money in the long run.
A few hours a day is A LOT when you consider work, sleep, eating, etc. - that's like half of what you do.
"A man should support his family and my money is mine." So, basically, what's yours is yours, and what's his is yours, too, right?
And sex? What, once a month, and you don't even seem to enjoy it? "He should be happy...I should not have to work at providing pleasure, after all a woman is the flower and the man is the gardener"? If that's true, if the gardener waters and prunes and nourishes the flower, but the flower doesn't open up and show its beauty, he's going to start thinking that no matter what he does it isn't going to be enough and the flower will never blossom.
It's absolutely NO wonder you're having trouble attracting the right kind of guy.*. Relationships are supposed to be give-and-take, and that doesn't mean "one person takes what the other person gives". It means both people need to recognize and be responsive to the other persons' needs, and from what you're saying here you don't seem to be too adept at that. If you set your standards too high, you're going to end up filtering out *everyone
2006-11-29 22:39:36 · answer #1 · answered by supensa 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'll answer that question in form of a story.
There was this lady who went to a rather peculiar store aptly named the Husband Store. Upon entering its rotating doors, a kindly receptionist approached her with a smile and begins her spiel.
"Welcome to the Husband Store." she said, "But before we choose the perfect husband for you there are cerrtain rules that needs to be followed.
"The store runs on five floors and the escalators can only go up so that means you can never go back down to take your second pick."
"Is that all?" The lady asked with a questioning gaze on the receptionist, which she answered with a nod.
"So if you're ready, you can go ahead and climb the escalators." The receptionist waved her arm towards the steel moving steps.
Arriving at the first floor, several men were in display, and the receptionist began the introductions.
"This floor houses husbands who are good looking and loves children."
The lady looks around and finds the men charming, but it seems that it's not enough for her as she heads towards the second escalators.
"On the second floor are husbands who are good looking, loves to cook and clean and loves children."
Indeed the second floor do house more attractive husbands unlike that on the first floor, but the lady gave it some more thought and decided to try the third. Upon arriving, the receptionist gave out her usual spiels.
"On the third floor are husbands who are good looking, loves to cook and handy with tools and repair, God-fearing and loves children."
She was sweating a bit as she looks around, but given that there are two more floors she thought she might get a much better deal at the top.
"On the fourth floor are husbands who are good looking, loves to cook, sophisticated, God-fearing, loves children and CEO's and presidents of major companies and businesses."
She was swooning over the number of men in the floor, with teeth that shines like pearls and a body to crawl upon. But instead she heads for the last escalator, which surprisingly the receptionist didn't follow her for some reason. She didn't give any thought in the matter, thinking that she must not be in the top ranks to be with such men so she climbed in anyway. Upon reaching the fifth floor, she could hear the sound of the city traffic and not to far away is the EXIT sign. Next to the door was a note:
"Dear Customer:
Since you obviously not able to find the perfect husband for you, I believe we were unable to provide you the service that we have been known with. Hopefully you can find the husband that is most suitable for you.
Thank you for your patronage.
The Husband Store"
Fin...
There's no such thing as a Perfect Man, but there is a thing as a Man with a true heart despite of anything. But a relationship is not just based on what a woman should want, but what they can both achieve together.
2006-11-29 22:50:35 · answer #2 · answered by once_a_nerd 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-14 09:37:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-11-29 22:36:46 · answer #4 · answered by mykemejeje 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apparently your idea of normal isn't the same as mine.
2006-11-29 22:30:58 · answer #5 · answered by jesuspimper 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
get used to being alone, maybe you find someone suitable for you someday
2006-11-29 22:51:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what do u mean my GREAT GUY
2006-11-29 22:33:10 · answer #7 · answered by coolguy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
in europe ....they are only there! lol
2006-11-29 22:31:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋