Told him I love him twice already. Should I wait for him to say it, or tell him again?

Question

First time (2 months into the relationship) I told him I loved him, we were laying in bed cuddling. His response was pulling me closer and hugging me tighter. But no "I love you" back. I told him I loved him another night when we were drunk at a club. 5 months later he suddenly broke up with me partly cuz he wasn't sure all this time he wanted to be in a relationship, but said he had feelings for me still. We got back together 2 months later after realizing neither of us could let go of the other. It's been about 2 months n things are better than ever. The closest he came to telling me he loved me was when I posted in my online journal (1 wk ago), an alegorical poem which included the words "love me" hidden in the text. He commented on it with a poem of his own which also included words in the text, "sure do". Now that things are great between us, should I wait for him to tell me he loves me, or tell him again hoping this time he'll be sure and say it back? -he's not the emotional type

First time (9 months ago) I told him I loved him, we were laying in bed cuddling. His response was pulling me closer and hugging me tighter. But no "I love you" back. I told him I loved him another night when we were drunk at a club. 5 months later he suddenly broke up with me partly cuz he wasn't sure all this time he wanted to be in a relationship, but said he had feelings for me still. We got back together 2 months later after realizing neither of us could let go of the other. It's been about 2 months n things are better than ever. The closest he came to telling me he loved me was when I posted in my online journal (1 wk ago), an alegorical poem which included the words "love me" hidden in the text. He commented on it with a poem of his own which also included words in the text, "sure do". It's been almost a year, should I wait for him to tell me he loves me, or tell him again hoping this time he'll be sure and say it back? -he never liked to talk about feelings or be all emotional

Answer 1

Sometimes in life actions speak louder than words. I want you to ask yourself why is it you need to hear him say I love you, why do you want or need him to say that. surely you are aware of his feelings. Some guys cannot say that but they do feel it . It's not about him being the emotinal type or not. It's about your need to hear those words. We cannot make others do or say what we want them to. love is not about expecting things from our loved ones it's all about acceptance being aware of each others needs and healthy communication based on honesty etc. so maybe you two need to have a really open honest talk about what each others needs are and what you both can do for one another so that each of you feel loved and appreciated without feeling like you are being to pushy demading or emotional.

Be honest with yourself about your feelings and when you both chat togehter do so without judging one another. enjoy the time you have together making the most of your time and energy and never for one minute take each other for granted. Good luck with everything in life. Sometimes in life we need to allow ourselves to think differently to improve ourselves and our life in general.

Answer 2

the sensation which you have good now, it's going to bypass away in time. Are you going to allow a guy this point make you experience stupid ? He does that to you because of the fact he's conscious he can and whilst he says sorry you will probable take him returned besides. OPEN YOUR EYES and comprehend which you deserve somebody who treats you like a human and this guy you have been with is a parasite. each minute you waste questioning approximately him is a existence you're dropping. Get accessible and function exciting !! whilst he comes returned, do no longer even ask him something. only act such as you in no way met him !

Answer 3

He cares about you a lot. Accept it as it is. I'm a woman too, and I would like to hear the words, but sometimes what we get is 'actions' and that should be enough until he's ready. After all it's only been 2 months.

And no, you don't have to tell him again just to make him say it back. You tell him only when you wish to express YOUR feelings not his.

Answer 4

Joey, I don't know why you're giving yourself unnecessary stress. From all what you've said, this guy REALLY loves you. See, I'm a guy and I know what I'm talking about. You said you love him, and he put you closer to him. The second time in a poem and confirmed it by saying "sure do". So, how else do you want him to prove it to you. We guys don't always believe in words but in ACTION, and he has demonstrated just that. I believe he's giving you a very good "spanking" too - that's what I consider the best "gift" any guy can give to his gurl (lol). Please, take it coooool cos he really, really loves you - trust me - will you? That's a smart gurl. Cheers!

Answer 5

There is a big difference between LOVE and INFATUATION, from your qtns I beleive this is infatuation not real love, someone who loves you should speak out and let you know in words and in action, so gal, think fast..........this is infatuation!!!

Answer 6

sounds like he is emotionally detached from uttering those words for fear of the meaning of them in his life.He is scared that if he says them to you that it will mean the loss of his freedom and the loss of his control.Just play it cool for awhile because it sounds like he has a hard time verbilizing his thoughts.Say it again if you wish, but don't expext him to say it soon.

Answer 7

Let him find his time to tell you.

Answer 8

better wait. . . because its men's nature. . . they are not good in saying their feelings. . they are good in showing their love in actions. . .

Answer 9

He will tell you on his own time.