I am getting married next month. It is an arranged marriage, I know her now since 3 1/2 months. She is coming to UK to join me. I am marrying b'coz I really want a partner, but for her she was not intending to get married now, but her parents wanted her to get married now. Nonetheless, she liked me & agreed to marry me.
However, when I speak to her on the phone, I don't feel any love from her. As a result, I feel often empty. I am a very loving & expressive person but she is often not very expressive. She says she doesnt love me, but will probably after marriage.
I so much her want her love & attention, but I do not get it at all the way I want. She doesn't say anything sweet to me, she just talks casually. We are very different in our viewpoints. What do I do? I am often burning to get her love, but she is not giving it to me. Will she give it to me after marriage as she claims? If not, what do I do? She'll be my wife but I won't ever have any happiness if she won't love me.
2006-11-29 22:01:27 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
My suggestion to you, is to calm down. I know this must be a huge thing for you, and all these feelings are racing through you, but give it time. If you have only known her for 3 and a half months, that really isn't very long. Get to know her. Treat the relationship atleast in you mind, like it is not an arranged marriage. Let her get to know you. Don't rush into it. My beliefs and culture are different from yours, but I spent nearly 3 years getting to know my girlfriend and ironing out our personalities and all of that before we finally were married. You may not have that option, but you do have the time. You hopefully have a lifetime to spend together. Keep that in mind and don't rush yourself into having to know everything right away, and don't rush her either. Enjoy each other and learn to love each other.
2006-11-29 22:09:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now now you are assuming too much. Understand that girls who get arranged marriage are not so open i.e in 3 1/2 months you know & that too on phone.
She could also have pre concieved notions about you as you have. It takes time, efforts & TLC to her to express openly. try to meet her once before the marriage is planned & talk to her.
As she is coming to UK from her country, don't you think that she too is looking for love, attention ? Right.
2006-11-29 22:32:33 · answer #2 · answered by TheSage 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ofcourse she will a/f marriage dumb person. By your question, i assume u are of asian origin. I am as well. In western culture, its unheard of to get marrried arranged. But because she is of asian descent or some asian country, she probably is shy and not that expressive b/f marriage. So don't worry get married and love between you two will come after.
I am taking a chance and writing something...Maybe u will get it...
'Fikar na karu...har cheez shaadi sey phehle nahi huti...balke shaadi key baad ju muhabbat huti hai, wu zaida strong hutti hai'
It's Urdu/Hindi, whichever u call it...hope u understand and everything works out for u. U have my blessings.
2006-11-29 22:09:18 · answer #3 · answered by BretH 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is better to express it to her and get her opinion before marriage.Otherwise you will be a married person but not a Husband.
2006-11-29 22:08:42 · answer #4 · answered by shri 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋