I am a male (29 years). I been searching for a true friend for the past 20 years. Most of my girl friends were not true. They used me to get their work done. Now I have a girl friend who is also using me for her day-to-day activities. She uses my ATM for all her expenses. Even though I know that she is not going to stay with me, I cant break her relationship. I need a good and true friend. Many girls misunderstand that I fall in love with them but that is not the truth. I just treat everyone as friends but till now I did not get one. When and where will i get a true friend? How can I identify them? I have seen many persons having true friends but I dont have any. Even God betrayed me.
2006-11-29 20:49:58 · 9 answers · asked by sathiajith 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Stop picking the same kind of people to be with.
2006-11-29 20:52:05 · answer #1 · answered by tumbleweed1954 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are true to yourself, true friends will follow. Maybe all this time you've been true to impress but not true for real. True to yourself meaning...Just be real be who you are don't over do anything for anyone, look out for yourself without feeling guilty about it. It's good to be nice but also look out for yourself. What they see is what they get and if your friends are real they'll like that new attitude and they'll even respect you more.. and er don't throw any blame on God because it's your decisions that got you into this mess...God didn't tell you to allow your girlfriends to use you, you did... and your still waking up for the past 20 years till now for a chance to find that friend. You owe God an apology! take care.
2006-11-29 21:19:31 · answer #2 · answered by candy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My dear Brother, I think the problem has to do with your negative attitude. To say that God has betrayed you means you are yet to understand the meaning of true friendship, and until that is done you may not get a true friend.
The truth is if you want to have a true friend you must first be a true friend yourself. True friends exist everywhere but a responsible person will want to ascertain your own genuineness before submitting to you.
So, be open-minded, continue to make contacts and God will someday send someone that fits your make-up accross to you.
2006-11-29 21:44:08 · answer #3 · answered by OlaAkinyemiOmoonile-ni-JogaOrile 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ur correct in the sense god can be true & best friend. But to experince it when u see the world make a point that ur seeing a creation of god but not god SWT. and even u r just a creation of god SWT. If u want to have relationShip with god u have to follow the people who made the god happy and got Great rewards from god even they were God's creations. Look at the Biography of Phropet Abraham He was declared the first friend of god. Look at what the God expected from him, look at his sacrifices for the sake of god He was ready to sacrifice anything for god And at the end of his hard life what r the return he got.
U also go into the details of last prophet of god i.e. Prophet Mohamed and read to understand Quran the last book of God SWT. and go to the details of biography of Phrophet Mohamed different books r available in the reference of hadis or Hidath
ThankYou
2006-11-29 21:12:24 · answer #4 · answered by mohamed_shukoor2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Join a bible study group, go to a church, go where people don't care how much money you have or what your job is. Go to college and don't get attracted to the slutty hottie that will leave you as soon as your bank account runs out. Instead for for the smart, quiet girl that thinks before acting. You'll defenately see the difference. (Not all hot girls are dumb. There's always an exception.)
2006-11-29 21:12:10 · answer #5 · answered by zaitsev_v1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are absolutely right in saying that true friendship is hard to come by.There is nothing called true friendship. It is only in our imagination. Every friend has a flaw, and we make them what we are .Do not be suspicious of your friends. Be loving and that means giving without regret. In the end you will cultivate what you sow.
2006-11-29 21:02:10 · answer #6 · answered by apinyiokello 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
there hard to come by sometimes the net is a great way of meeting someone very special in this wolrd likeyou said they use people might seem to have good friends but really every one has something to say about them i am 26 with no real friends
2006-11-29 21:03:38 · answer #7 · answered by treatau 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
inspiration is the word,
depression is the thought.
its time to change yourself and the world.
2006-11-29 22:29:09 · answer #8 · answered by dax 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol
i used to have too intimate relationship with friends when i was in a highschool.
now i dont want too close relationship
2006-11-29 20:52:46 · answer #9 · answered by Hiro4349 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋