I ever post a question that I was involved with a married man with 3 kids. I know his wife, children and parents. Under the advices received from the members of Yahoo Answers, I back off and lead my life as normal. However, the husband still continue calling me behind his wife and come to either my house or office to meet me. I am always giving excuse whenever he wanted to be with me. Yesterday I was accuse by his wife of trying to break up their marriage when I have nothing to do with them anymore. I am moving out from my current flat but how do I avoid them when I am still working in the same company. I dont want to leave my company after working for 12 years just because of these 2 idiots and it is not easy to get a job with the salary you are satisfied with. I cant change my handphone number as I have to inform too many people and why should I trouble myself just because of them.
2006-11-29 20:47:46 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's good that you quit playing with the married guy. I agree that quitting your job isn't an answer. I suggest that you just continue to not see him. If he wants to see you, simply tell him you aren't going to do ANYTHING. He just enjoys betraying his wife, and wants to keep playing with you. But, heck, lots of guys probably would like to sleep with you. Keep telling the married guy to forget it. If he doesn't, threaten to report HIM to the company for sexual harassment.
2006-11-29 20:55:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call this husband and wife out for a straight forward meeting, ask a friend (man/woman) to accompany you to this meeting. During this meeting, bring out your problems and clear all outstanding issues of your relationship with her husband. You have to do this or else the blame will be on you and this stubborn man still go after you.
2006-11-30 07:37:28 · answer #2 · answered by James Louis 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've already been given the best advice by Laural. And by the way he should be the one leaving the company. Let his wife know that too. In fact write him and her a letter stating you wish to have no further contact with them ever, and you will get a restraining order if he persists in bothering you.
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2006-11-30 05:31:05 · answer #3 · answered by Myrmaad 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him that if he doesn't leave you alone you will tell his wife everything. How much worse can it get. Obviously she knows somethings up, and it doesn't sound like you are friends with her. So the worst case scenario is that he keeps it up, you tell her, she hates you but lays into him. As far as work goes, tell him that you want nothing to do with him if he continues have a private conversation with your boss and see if there is a way he can be escorted out by security.
2006-11-30 05:06:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest changing your telephone #---a little trouble but---look at it like this it would save you alot of unwanted telephone calls.
You should no better by having an affair with married man---You should have no further communications with this man and you need to tell him so and mean it----
No communications and no responses to this individual or his family----If he comes seeking you tell him that if he doesn't stop you'll report him to your companies human resources department and file a complaint of sexual harrassment---This in itself should keep him away from you.
concentrate yourself in your work and keep your 12 yr position and all it's benefits!!
You know---there is one more idiot you needed to add to your equation!!! Affair (MAN) #1 mans wife (#2) and You make #3
2006-11-30 07:30:04 · answer #5 · answered by aunt_beeaa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do wat you feel is right.. If you have to change ur number to have a little peace of mind then do so... The gain will be a a chunk lifted off your shoulder... Your courageous to take the initiative to leave this man alone.. And if his wife doesnt trust you oh well.. Just block both them out of ur mind.. And try avoiding both of them..
2006-11-30 04:53:06 · answer #6 · answered by Cece 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell the husband straight on the face to stop harassing you any further. If he refuse to listen, talk to the wife, tell her the husband keep harassing you, or report to the Police.
2006-11-30 05:30:40 · answer #7 · answered by Tan D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have to think what is the right thing for you to do now. Personally, I feel that by changing your phone number is one of the way to avoid him. If you have already done what you should done, then I think there is no way you can avoid both of them if they want to look for you
2006-11-30 05:49:36 · answer #8 · answered by Clown & Joker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You put your self in that situation....you got involved with a married man, then your gon'na ask a question why should you trouble your self just because of them?.... well, you did it to theirs......so dont complain.
2006-11-30 04:56:54 · answer #9 · answered by Morena 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually i hope you learn fROM this sweeite it seems like you are gonna have a hard time getting these people of your back but you shouldnt have to change your job over your mistake.
2006-11-30 04:54:11 · answer #10 · answered by dodgerchik 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋