I'm 22, currently in a dead end relationship. For some reason, I'm beginning to get this sense of urgency in finding a potential husband. I mean, ideally I'd like to get married around 27 or 28. Right now I feel like I need to find a nice boy. Date him for a few years... if it works out, get engaged... if it doesn't work out, find someone else. This sounds perfectly logical right? I want to fulfill my goals within a certain timeframe. Yet at the same time... it seems irrational. What do you think?
2006-11-29 20:27:10 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I think that's a comon feeling. You're in a rush to "start" your life and that usually includes a husband and kids. Try not to rush it because after you get married to the wrong person you'll realize how silly it was to think that way. 50% of us marry the "wrong" person. We have to be happy as ourselves before being happy w/ others. Suppose it never happens? You need to fulfill your dreams.
2006-11-29 20:31:52 · answer #1 · answered by uknowme 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think that your feelings are normal and that your thinking is logical. You want to date someone for about 3 years before you marry him so that you're confident that you're marrying the right person.
When you say your current relationship is a dead end, I assume that you mean that there is no chance of marriage with this person.
I think that your sense of urgency is probably due to your knowing that you have to end your current relationship and look for a new one. There is always a little anxiety about that.
God bless you and do not settle for anyone that is not a good man and right for you.
2006-11-29 20:44:07 · answer #2 · answered by Smartassawhip 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 21, but i'm somehow undergoing whatever u're going thru. Perhaps it's the pressure around us? For me, I set a timeframe of getting married by 25 ! Haha, ridiculous, but true! A certain examples I've got from my friends is that they got married very young and still happily together, but some had otherwise kind of ending. I cant actually answer ur question, but I'm glad there are people who shares the same thinking as me.
2006-11-29 20:33:34 · answer #3 · answered by Jer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your age and thoughts tally well. Its the right age to think about companionship, courting and marriage. You are normal. Just that the thought at the back of your mind is to prove yourself capable of all this and more when you have a dead relationship in your past. Dont hurry yourself. Take your time to go through all the phases you described!
2006-11-29 20:32:17 · answer #4 · answered by jinitha p 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you giving yourself a time frame? That doesn't sound good at all. Setting goals, is good, but setting time frames for relationships only puts you under stress, and that's not good.
If you're unhappy in the current relationship, then you need to get out of it. There's absolutely no sense in staying in it if you're unhappy about it. Get out of it and see how you feel. You may decide to stay single for awhile and get used to being 'you' again before getting involved in another.
2006-11-29 20:34:53 · answer #5 · answered by Lucianna 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's probably because you've never been married before. I have, and I have no desire to be, ever again! It's all based on perspective. Give yourself time rather than rush into anything. 22 is soooo young!
2006-11-29 20:30:38 · answer #6 · answered by Rebecca 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
it seems you only thinking what you want, start taking care of what other want, you may get what you want
2006-11-29 20:31:11 · answer #7 · answered by aahooo 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋