Why do some lesbians talk so much about how lesbian they are instead of just being lesbian? Can't you be openly gay without making a spectacle out of yourself! Gay shouldn't be who you are but a part of who you are.
2006-11-29 20:21:54 · 5 answers · asked by Deegoor 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I do know lots of lesbians. My best friends where raised by a couple of lesbians. I work with 4. I see hear them in the metro. I see them at the clubs. I see them on TV... Everywhere...
It's a normal thing...
2006-11-29 20:44:00 · update #1
Don't assume I am straight! Don't assume I'm gay!
Dont assume!
2006-11-29 21:06:16 · update #2
Don't assume I haven't already asked the lesbians I know this question. If I intend to really understand the matter why would I limit myself to their answers when there's a world of answers available, here?
2006-11-29 21:09:53 · update #3
Yes, you can be openly gay without making a spectacle of yourself but when lesbians get together, they tend to talk about the commonalities they have - which would be love, romance, and sexual relations with other women. That's a human trait not a lesbian trait. Being lesbian is just one part of who you are, there's still many other facets of the person but when people get together, they tend to stick to conversations where they have things in common with the others. Ever been to a big party? Jocks tend to talk about sports, business gurus talk about money, mergers, and the state of the union, etc.
You made a good observation but know that it applies to everyone's innate desire to relate to others. Being lesbian is how we relate to each other.
2006-11-29 20:41:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a lesbian and I notice this kind of behaviour in gay guys also.
I'm not a ranting raving lesbian, since I live in a small town and not everyone is accepting of it. But, I don't hide the fact that I'm a lesbian. If someone asks me I will tell them, but I don't walk around introducing myself as a lesbian and then telling them my name. I mostly keep it to myself.
There are 'attention seeking' lesbians that seem to think that the world needs to know their sex life and how lesbian they really are. They openly kiss and fondle excessively, especially in straight bars, as well as looking around the room to see who was watching, and then doing it again with more gusto just to make a point. Oh and the dancefloor will also become a makeshift bedoir for where they grind so sexually explicitly and wonder why all the guys in the room start wanting to get involved. This then gives them the right to tell every guy, rudely, that they're a lesbian and therefore off limits. They make a point of mentioning their sexuality in every sentence for that extra oomph. They throw their noses up at bisexual women, making a point that they're all-lesbian and not half, but wont have a problem snogging the face off a bi chick if it draws a crowd.
I'm sure there are alot more other humourous points, but I don't feel like wasting anymore time LOL
My point is, not everyone is perfect and I'm sure you can find some of the same qualities in straight people. Its just another stereotype that makes life more interesting.
2006-11-30 08:20:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stating how gay you are is asserting yourself in a world that is often intolerant of you, raising awareness for gay social causes, and being an openly gay role model for people who have yet to come out. Being openly gay shows to politicans how many gays there are, and raises awareness for gay social causes. Openly gay men and women are also rolemodels for people who have yet to come out. This began in the 70s, when the first official "out" generation lacked guidance. Many of them felt isolated. They looked for love and acceptance in all the wrong places (which is why the AIDS rate soared.) Others became trapped in straight marriages, taunted by guilt and depression. Many more developped "shadow lives." Nowadays, gay youths have support and mentors that show them that being gay does not mean you can't contribute to society. Being "out" is not a behavior strictly related to lesbians. It is an outreach of support to others. Perhaps once gays are truly integrated into the American mainstream, this will die down and no one will care what sexuality you are, but what kind of person you are. Until that day happens, gays are open because if they don't support each other, others surely won't.
2006-11-30 05:48:25 · answer #3 · answered by roxusan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well unless you know a lot of lesbians, then this is probably a gross stereotype.
However, it may be because they're really nervous thinking everyone else is uncomfortable with them being queer so they're over compinsating(sp).
2006-11-30 04:30:25 · answer #4 · answered by jacque_sue89 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm a gay man, i understand straight women much better than i do lesbians! lololol
2006-11-30 06:10:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋