I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years, but I've always been turned on by my friend Sharon. I think she's interested in me too. Is it cheating if we two girls get together and I don't tell my bf? Or should I ask Sharon if she wants to get together with both of us? What would my boyfriend think? This is very confusing.
2006-11-29 20:13:46 · 25 answers · asked by wraith 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
sex with another person without consent from bf/gf or husband/wife is cheating. talk to your boyfriend if you are interested in having sex with someone else.
2006-11-29 20:25:11 · answer #1 · answered by Spyder 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Let's see here ... I assume that you are dating online with the first boyfriend? Showing fake pictures won't do any good. It will come to a point where you have to be real and show him who you really are. How do you think he'll react when he finds out the girl in those pictures ... really isn't you? The other one, if you think he's annoying and weird, then why are you with him if you think that way about him? As for the third boyfriend, I assume is also online dating? If he lives in another state and you don't love him as you say, again, why are you with him? What you need to realize is that no matter what you do, you will end up hurting, not one, but all three of them. You pretty much lied, not only to them, but also to yourself. If I were you, I'd try to fix things up.
2016-05-23 04:26:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES it IS cheating. If you are going behind your boyfriends back to do it, regardless of gender it's cheating. Just because it's not a guy doesn't make it excusable. Unless you get his permission to fly solo or include him it's definitely cheating.
That said, if you are lucky and play your cards right you can have your cake and eat it too! :-) Honesty is the best policy I have friends who have bi girlfriends and doing something without the other person's knowledge is a definite no-no. It can end relationships. Because it's a matter of trust. You don't realize it but to some guys having a bif translates into having to watch out for guys AND girls trying to snake his gf.
If you have to sneak to do it then you obviously know you shouldn't be doing it. I don't know what you bf would think. So you should ask him. The irony I've found is most guys who are ok with it have straight gfs yet for some odd reason a majority of girls who are bi find the one guy who ISN'T! (Do they do it on purpose? lol!?!!?)
Ask him. If he isn't into it then you need to decide what's important to you. Because if he isn't into it you decide to do it and he catches you. Well that's not good for anyone involved. Hopefully you'll be the lucky one with a bf who's ok with it and he'll help you complete yourself. Otherwise you might need to start searching for a new guy.
Good Luck.
2006-11-29 22:12:57 · answer #3 · answered by Cybrocupid 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You might be bisexual. It is cheating if you got together with your friend and didn't tell you bf. If he got together with a girl that would be the equivilant. If you suggested a threesom, he might feel that something is wrong with him in bed or in his abilities as a lover. Having a threesome can be fun, but it also will strain your relationship, since someone always ends up as the "third wheel." Try to examine how your relationship with him is going: it might just be that it's gotten too routine or that the spark is gone. Ask yourself if you WANT to get it back. If you do, don't do a threesome and start being adventurous together (bondage might be fun for both of you.) If you think the relationship is over, tell him but don't put him down. Just say you feel both of you have grown apart.
2006-11-29 21:32:14 · answer #4 · answered by roxusan 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You didn't mention still loving your boyfriend so I'm gonna say you might want to reevaluate your relationship with him. I'm all for exploration but you gotta be good to your man. He's who you've committed yourself to. So, if you wanna toy with your friend, go for it but don't cheat. Ask your boyfriend for input first or let him go to explore your other interests.
You're in a fun little spot. If you bring it up to Sharon, that could very easily turn into a foreplay situation. If you bring it up to your boyfriend, he'll probably get turned on and want it - assuming he's not the jealous type and is very secure in you guy's relationship. 3 somes can be fun if all parties are respectful of boundaries. But be careful. They can bite you in the #&*$ very easily, too.
2006-11-29 20:32:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ask your Bf if he would go for a 3 some. And if he say why tell him why. I do not think that it would be cheating. I would do it in a hot minute.
2006-11-30 06:08:46 · answer #6 · answered by babygirl11 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you go with Sharon without telling your BF, then you are cheating. most straight guys seem to find a Girl/guy/Girl scene very sexy. Tell your boyfriend, he will most probably like it.
2006-11-29 23:34:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Can you say ..."BAD IDEA"? If you really care for the boyfreind; you should just leave him out ! Ever heard that 90 % of 2 girl , 1 boy "partys"; end w/ the boyfreind being left out ?? oh yeah ! Better bring him a magazine ! Better yet..{ just an opinion}..decide which one you want to keep ! risky buisness & someone gets the boot !!
2006-11-29 20:30:32 · answer #8 · answered by Dr.O 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, it IS cheating. Ask both of then to see what they think about it. Honesty is always the best policy, no matter what the situation.
2006-11-29 20:28:28 · answer #9 · answered by Alias400 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
3 way. dont go behind his back, alot of guys view hceating as cheating whatever sex the person is. but discuss the possibility of a 3way with him befor talkin to ur friend about it
2006-11-29 21:03:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋