How should one feel being the other woman?

Answer 1

to be honest... Special...

please do not get me wrong here... a lot of people make a wrong choice in life... thanks to pressures that operate on them,...

when wisdom dawns upon them they make a second (informed) choice

n this is the second woman

so the second woman should obviously feel special...

Answer 2

Whoa. Hold up. Before anyone has the right to call you a homewrecker, perhaps they should ask if you KNEW that the man you were seeing was married in the first place.

I dated a man a couple of years before I got married, and he was stationed in Fort Detrick, in Maryland. I knew better than to have a long-distance relationship, but this man told me that he was getting out of the military in only a few short months, sooo, I decided to wait for him. I fell in love with him, too.

I don't know what prompted me to do this, and maybe I'll NEVER know, but one morning, I woke up, and realized that he only called me during the days, Monday through Friday, but rarely at night or on the weekends (and when he DID call me at night or on the weekends, he was never home). The idea that he could be married popped into my mind. I paid a fee and ran a background check on him.

... And got the hell away from him.

I felt like a homewrecker, though, because I had (unknowingly) done what I considered to be the ultimate sin... Marriage is one of the only things in this world that I still consider to be sacred, and I had helped to desecrate someone else's.

It took me a while to realize that it wasn't my fault, but I wasn't going to get caught in the victim trap again.

Would you believe that I had someone run a background check on my husband when I met him (and every man I dated in between)? lol

If you didn't know, it's not your fault. Try to move on when you're ready. If you DID know, however, that's a problem. If a man is going to cheat on his wife, you should have a high enough self esteem not to be the "other woman".

Answer 3

If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.

If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.

Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.

Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.

Stop trying to change = yourselves for a relationship that's not meant to be.

Slower is better.

Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.

If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can't "be friends." A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.

Don't settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.

Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.

The only person you can control in a relationship is you.

Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. They don't respect women or children. He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, Why would he treat you any differently?

Always have your own set of friends separate from his.

Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you.

If something bothers you, speak up.

Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.

You cannot change a man's behavior. Change comes from within.

Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...even if he has more education or in a better job. Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less.

Never let a man define who you are.

Never borrow someone else's man.

Oh Lord! If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.

A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.

All men are NOT dogs.

You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is a two-way street.

You need time to heal between relationships...there is nothing cute about baggage... deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship

You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals...look for someone complimentary...not supplementary.

Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr.. Right.

Make him miss you sometimes...when a man always know where you are, and you're always readily available to him- he takes it for granted.

Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need.

Keep him in your radar but get to know others.

Answer 4

Just depends..Men seem to tell the other woman that there separted,getting divorce,ect You only know what your being told..But on the other hand if you know he's married and continue to sleeze with him then, Hopefullly that would make you feel like crap and stop what your doing..because theres other people involved, wife,kids.ect.who are the innocent ones and don't deserve to have there world torn apart

Answer 5

It is not wise enough to have faith in man's liking for single woman.Every man has attraction for OTHER woman. Law of diminishing reurns applies here with full effect. Every person wants to be with a new beautiful sweet sixteen every next hour. What is the last desire after having uncounted wealth....... a young girl. Execptions are there but a very very very low percentage. Remove all restrictions ..social...police....etc. then look at the behaviour of man and not only man but woman also.

Answer 6

i would hate it i have never been the other woman but i would hate to think that my man was going home to another woman every night and i was just being used i would never ask for that

Answer 7

i think u r already going through a lot being the other woman.... you should just have confidence give up the current man in your life and move on to someone who is man enough to accept to the world that you are the only one in his life.........however don't spoil someone Else's home put yourself in her shoes......give up the man he doesn't deserve you anyway!!!!

Answer 8

she is helping to destroy someone's happiness, and life. she is creating fear, and uncertinty in the life of the unjured spouse. if i were her i would feel bad, and end it, and let him go back to his wife and maybe make his marriage work. because what goes around comes around, and if u were the wife, and someone else was in the background, with your hubby wouldn't u be hurt?

Answer 9

it sucks and the reason they dont leave even knowing he is with someone else is because they really want to hold onto something they wished they had and they know they cant have it so they stay hoping and trying they can

Answer 10

you shouldn't have to be 2nd place to anyone if you don't want to. Why would you settle for less then being his only woman