I Need Help!?

Question

My little 14-year-old sister - being the "shy" type asked ME to give her "the talk" instead of mum. what do I say!?

Believe me - she is clueless about this! I just dont know what to say to her! I cant just say "dont have sex yet!" can i? lol
SHE DOESNT EVEN KNOW WHAT SEX IS!!! All Ebelle knows is that it makes kids!

Yeah - she knows Ive had sex b4 - im 9 months pregnant in fact - im 17 - (got pregnant at 16 - to a 24 year old...)
And I really dont want to teach her that thats right - i got pregnant beacause a condom BROKE!

Also Mum (nor I) would let Ebelle take the pill - so yeah...

WOULDNT - WOULDNT ***** lol sry

And ALSO - I need to give her the WHOLE teen talk - not just about sex - like you know piercings and tattoos and clubbing and sh*it like that - i mean she said to me last year - "I want a tattoo!" because she saw the one I have on my chest...

Jeez ima sh*it role-model lol

THAT CHICK WITH THE SHITY THING IN HER HAIR - YOU ARE A FU*CKHEAD - SHUT UP IM NOT GIVING MY BABIES UP AND MY BOYFRIEND IS NOT GOING TO JAIL - SHUT THE FU*CK UP SL*UT

Answer 1

Hello there! Firstly, I think you should feel honoured that your little sister has asked you, she obviously feels very comfortable around you and looks up to you! I wish I had a big sister! (I am the biggest sister, of four girls!!) I think you should tell her how it is: tell her the facts first please! Please do tell her that she shouldn't be having sex so young, because she too can fall pregnant, plus theres the worry of STD's and things like that.

If you find it all a bit overwhelming talking to her about it, maybe ask your mum too, if she can't for some reason, maybe an aunt or cousin. Maybe check out a couple of websites, I'm sure there's enough around on sex education.

Do not listen to the troll who wrote you should give up your baby for adoption. Like thats the answer you dumbarse lady!! And you think your sister is going to look up to you for doing that? I would imagine your sister would kick your ar$e, more likely! Don't listen to her, I can't believe she wrote what she did. People who judge other people without the full story absolutely P I S S me off!

I wish you every ounce of love, luck, joy and success with your new baby! Enjoy every minute, you'll be surprised how quick time flies! Best of luck too with your little sis!

Best wishes to you from Australia! xo

Answer 2

If you parents are like mine then your sister probably thinks she
will not get a good answer from your parents. If I ever asked my
mom about it, she would say something like "you don't do it unless
you are married, end of discussion!"
She knows you have had sex (obviously). She wants your opinion.
I feel you are a little young to be pregnant, but you can't change that.
I was 21 when I had my son. You may want to tell her to be extra
careful. If she chooses to have sex, she should wait a while. I think
by 16 or 17 it is okay, but let her know all of her options of birth
control. If you parents won't let her get on the pill or something
then she can use those suppositories or creams to help with
prevention in case there is a defective condom. Make sure you
tell her to always use a condom and if he says that he don't like
them, then she shouldn't be with him. If he cares about her then
he will use one. If he refuses, then she has the power to refuse
him. Condoms not only prevent pregnancy, but also STD's. You may want to get some literature on diseases so you will know what you are talking about before you talk to her.
Let her know that she can wait forever if she wants. If her friends are doing
it, that doesn't mean she has to. let her know how it feels to
be a teen mom. i know it will be hard for you, but you can do it.
Just don't give up on your career.

Answer 3

Talk to her about it. However, I think you should inform your mom, and if she's offended just tell her that the talk isn't the easiest thing to have with parents and that maybe she could casually bring it up with your sister.

As far as what to say, tell her your outlook on it. However, if I was the one giving the talk, I would tell her that sex isn't a big deal as far as it being a NEED at her age, but it is a big deal as far as the seriousness and consequences of irresponsibility. Being that I lost my virginity at a young age, I wouldn't be a hypocrite and say "you shouldn't have sex." I would instead recommend waiting til she was older (because I regret it now) when she is more mature mentally. But if she ever feels like she's ready, make urself available to provide her with condoms and get her on birth control. Since teens are going to do what they want, I would rather have them doing it safely. Good luck!!!

Answer 4

Unfortunately, you being with child is quite sad, you have so much to learn yourself yet - yep your little sister needs advice from a positive adult who will be honest but also informative about all the stuff. This is not you. Really think about this and if you want to help her now and since you thought you were old enough to be having sex with an adult - start by showing her and give your baby up for adoption. Go tell the police about your boyfriend who broke the law when he had sex with a minor. (Sad your mum has not called the police her self as of yet) And once you give up the baby be an example to your sister and finish high school, go to college and live your life knowing your child is living a better life then you could ever give since you are a child yourself. Believe me your sister will grow up to admire you and you will not regret it because being a single mother with no education and a men that most likely not be there for your child - you will only regret that broken condom and your child will only most likely repeat the cycle - just as your mom probably had you young too..the cycle repeats its self. Best of luck and think of your child's future - baby will need a 2 parent loving home.

Answer 5

Well, yeah, it seems like she trusts you. Does she know you've had sex? How old are you. If you're under 20, i'd say tell her to ask your parents, and that you'll be with her. If you're over, tell her what you know... FACTS ONLY!! You can go to planned parent hood with her, or go to a good website, or take her to your local family doctor or clinic! Then you should go with her to talk to your parents!! And tell them what she plans to do; save her self, use protection, wait until she's ready (18yrs.) or the pill. And then let her parents make the decision from there! She is underage! GOOD LUCK!

ps. tell her not to be scared!! And you love her!

Answer 6

At 14 she will know a lot already. Kids learn stuff from school and tv. Just be honest. Tell her the truth and make sure she knows to respect herself and her body

Answer 7

U have to tell ur sister everything in detail as she already knows much ,every steps pros n cons like a mum.

Answer 8

geez... oh sweet heart don't listen to that feather in her hair stupid girl. i was told the same thing, but i would never have forgiven myself everyone is envious of what i have with my little girl. you just be positive and have fun. keep it light simple and easy with your sister OK. oh and tell mum that you are going to talk to her that way she wont really feel left out and tell mum that you will tell your sister to go to her if she want to as well. that way mum gets her piece to. oh i hope you and your little bub and the daddy have the best of fun in future!!! :-)

Answer 9

Just tell hor what you know. There is no reason to feel embarassed about it, and it is better for to know all the in's, out's and risks of it. And its better for you to give her the talk if she feels more confortable hearing it from you.

Answer 10

I would tell her. She is 14 and needs to know by now. If you don't she might get into trouble