My mom doesn't have a problem with me having a girlfriend, yet she stiffens up at the mention of GLBT matters. I'm so confused, I don't know what to think of it.
2006-11-29 19:18:46 · 8 answers · asked by Parks H 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
if she haven't threw you out of her house, if she didn't try to do anything to hate your beloved, if she didn't try to make you feel really bad about such realtionship, if she wasn't coming with all mean things to tell you and do all these things to make youdecide that she's right, that such realtinoship is wrong, then I think she's accepting it. we all know that at the bottom of their hearts parents don't want such thing for their children, but in the end, some of them accept the fact, coz we're still their children (some unfortunately don't accept it even tho). maybe your mom isn't used to this yet. you should be REALLY happy (I'll be honest with you - I wish my mom was like yours, coz all these things that I wrote about at the beginning was what happened to me,what she did to me and it lasted more than half a year - living nightmare). just be happy that she's accepting you! don't push her to things. maybe she needs time. if you see how she reacts to this topic then try to not mention it while talking with her or just go it very slowly and delicate, don't push her. maybe she's not happy for it, she's just accepting you and that;s it. it doesn't mean that she wants' to know everything about your relationship and all these things conected to GLBT topic. but still you should be happy. don't be confused or disappointed by her behaviour, coz she already gave you one of the greatest things - tolerance, respect and acceptance. I wasn't as lucky as you are and I know how it is when you don't have it, when you're alone, when you feel very bad in your own home, when every comment of your mom hurts you.
you're really lucky, believe me
wish you all the best! :)
2006-11-29 19:40:36 · answer #1 · answered by bara_no_seido 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's probably uncomfortable to her cuz she is your mom and she wants to be a part of everything. And with time she may grow to understand that it's just a part of your life and as long as she is loving to you that's all that matters. Cut the woman some slack!
Sometimes it takes baby steps to reach a comfortable state.
2006-11-30 03:58:58 · answer #2 · answered by Namaste 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when it comes to matter of the heart my only advice is to listen to yours. your mother might not approve of a ?lesbian? or evena straight or ?gay? rrelatonship becuase of her dislike of said partner. but its not her oppinion thaty counts, your family memeber will never be able to accuratly pick a partner for you. but they can point out an unhealthy relationship. if your mum doesnt want to talk about it, then talk to someone else. your mom should love you regardless of your decision.
2006-11-30 03:25:09 · answer #3 · answered by FuSioN` 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try suggesting a PFLAG meeting for her. Find a PFLAG chapter in your area and offer to take her along.
It may open her eyes and allow her to know you in a better light.
http://www.pflag.org/
2006-11-30 03:46:21 · answer #4 · answered by DEATH 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to discuss certain issues with your friends rather than your mom
2006-11-30 03:23:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's probably uncomfortable to her because she isn't really use to it. She will love you no matter what.
2006-11-30 03:21:15 · answer #6 · answered by sammyd734 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
please keep try to discuss certain issues
with your gf rather than your mom will agree to it.....
yes dear
2006-11-30 05:32:59 · answer #7 · answered by dhavalshah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she's hoping that you will get over this 'phase' asap....
2006-11-30 03:53:06 · answer #8 · answered by sista! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋