"what do i do ,when wife does not want to have sex more than once a month?we are both 34yrs old"?

Answer 1

Women are so different when it comes to sex as much ..when oh when are you men going to realize this. I give up.

Answer 2

I would suggest trying to do something out of character. Are you normally a 'gentle, compassionate lover or are you more aggressive? Hate to break it to you sweety but women gt bored to. I would defiantly suggest trying different things and see what she might be into. If that does not work she could be depressed or the chemistry isn't there anymore and in that case you need to figure out what to do from there.
Good luck!
Oh and since if this question were geared towards a woman I would have to mention that it is possbie that you gained weight and she no longer finds you attractive! Aging can make women lose interest as well. If your wife is 28 and you are 55 she probably lost interest.

Answer 3

If you too dont want it more than once a month, then no probs at all !! But if you want......... you would have to be a bit more romantic. You need to realize ur wife that she is JUST 34 !! U know what i mean?? You need to generate her feeling of love...... and change your pattern of attempting romance. Your name suggests me that u are an Indian :) you really need to be more Romantic. Tell her she is still as beautiful as she was when you found her, you love her more than anything in world and will always.......etc.etc. etc. She will love this thing. More you will please her, more close you will find her.... then obviously the romance will turn in sx, as you are a "very loving couple" !!

If more help is needed... you can mail me !
Good Luck !!!!

Answer 4

jay p, yup.... sucks... but that is exactly what I'm going through but I got 10 years on you. Not much you can do.... any push to do more ends in insult too her... and blaaa, blaaa... blaaa...

you kind of need to see the whole picture, kids, family... and realize more to life... but she needs to be more understanding or it just ruins the relationship... possibly some head problems going on, mine tripped out cause of infertility problems... and that messed my gal up....

Go see your preacher at the church for counseling, or marriage counselor etc.. this is not an easy solution cause any effort will be taken as the conclusion of her on her back and that isn't what she wants... so you need to work on the other issues and hope that the sex will follow... and if not...

just be thankfull that about 48 your deck will fall off and won't want it that much anymore... and you will be more like the Labrador next door... sitting on the front pourch, liking his nuts and enjoying life....

welcome too the club bro.

Answer 5

lol no, communication is the key to any relationship. Unless you want your sexual relationship to only happen between you and your hand then it's an issue you must adress with her. Just tell her what you feel. Or if you want to try making her fall inlove with you again before you have a chat go fot it. Surprize her, make her lust after you like you were teenagers once again, spice it up ; )

Answer 6

there's something us, guys take for granted in this regard. you know, women are hopeless romantics- they love to envision us as a knight in shining armor... well, if you want an explosive night (and more explosive nights to follow) with her, be one! set the mood early. bring her flowers. dine her out on candle lights. be a total gentleman to her like opening the car door, etc. say kind, flattering but sincere comments to her. make sure you look clean and smell clean all over. know what pleases her and just do it! always put her need first before your own and see how she responds! when she knows you want to be intimate with her not just to gratify your immediate need, but more so to satisfy her, she would show gratitude... in bed, it's a contest of outpleasing each other.

Answer 7

Need to recover the passion and excitement, can try to do some diferent, something out of monotony. Go out and have sex in the car or buy sexy underwears and ask her to pose for you, maybe she needs you to remaind her how beautiful she is and how much she turns you on!

Answer 8

Porn. And sincerely let her know your watching more porn because of the lack of sex, and let her know that you understand that she's not in the mood. This will eventually eat her up inside and she may be more willing to talk to you about this to help fix the problem. Or she may do nothing and let problems get worst if she doesn't care. And if she doesn't care, that means something else has caused your relationship to go sour.

Answer 9

She might want something more? Spice it up.. go to a sex store and find fun things you can do that you never done with her before.. maybe give her more oral... girls are getting shut out of this oral thing lately and only the guys think they want it.. seriously give it to her longer then 3 mins and then start having sex.. give it to her like its the onl thing she's getting and she will follow you like she's crazy for more of you hunny.

Answer 10

You don't say how long you've been married, but when I was 34 I was in my prime and once a month wouldn't cut it then or cut it now! That's just not right!