Is lovemarriage preferable or arranged?

Answer 1

I took a college course that cover this topic. I really think it should be up to the person on what they want.

For arrange marriages it has been argued:
1.) Your parents know more about being married than you do, they have a better idea of what to look for
2.) Young adults are often more cofident in arrange marriages, because they don't have the pressure of trying to attract a mate.

Lovemarriage are obviously considered a good idea mainly for the freedom of choice.

I personally prefer a lovemarriage, but I probably read too many fairy tales growing up.

My final thought is that you should not push an arrange marriage in a lovemarriage culture(or vice versa.) I have friends whose parents have pushed them into finding arrange marriage canidates , when the kids just want to be like everyone else and socially date around.

Answer 2

No. The initial excitement would be there for sure. but it will die down very soon. and many couples whom I have seen, regret their decision. In an arranged marriage, parents & relatives search in detail, about the the person , background, family etc...very well. Mostly they will see if the families are compatible at all. In a love marriage, people are attracted by physical appearance, mostly. Experts also say that each one would try to impress by showing only the nice side of them - but picture changes after marriage - that too if the family is not supportive it's going to be hell.

finally, whether you know a person well before the marriage doesn't help at all - because both husband and wife are going to change after their marriage - with the burden of responsibilities, home management, financial worries etc...

Answer 3

Marriage arranged with love is preferable

Answer 4

Love marriage is definitely preferable only with the consent of parents/relatives.
But otherwise, will it succeed,even if it succeeds will it sustain long enough.That is where the problems lurk.To be able to succeed both must fully understand each other and then unitedly and independently overcome life against all odds,because you may not get any helping hand.
But in arranged marriages you will have relatively fewer problems.
So I would say arranged marriages are more likely to succeed and preferable.

Answer 5

Personally I believe love/marriage is better, but in some countries arranged marriages are done to aid the families. So therefore the answer is correct whichever way you look at it.

Answer 6

If you are not in love. best is arranged marriage is good. If you are in love, tell your parents and make an arranged marriage. Since just love marriage without your parents will be troublesome.

When you are in problem, your parents might talk to both of you and slove it, or if this problem make it big and parents also does, your relative is there to slove it. But if none of these are not in action , in love marriage, Life is dead. people seperate and life goes differently, coz of this your children will be one who suffer later.

So best if you love,Take to your parents and get married with there blessings. It will be also good to love after marriage.

The difference in love and arranged marriage is, when you love, you tend not to think about negatives of each personality, and when reality comes, you fight eachother.

But in arranged marriage, you fight first or you might not, but you try to know about eachother and adjust to eachother and try to live happily.

Answer 7

Both, as the sucess rate of both depends on the couples understanding each other be it arranged or love marriage

Answer 8

Dear Anandh!

I m Sathish from Bangalore.From my point of view Love-Marriage is d Best n Correct form of choosing ur Life-Partner.The only thing is, u must b broadminded n straight-forward in ur approach!
U must tell all ur pros. n cons. 2 her.Finally,If u Love somebody it should end up in Marriage.Ur Love must b True n Disciplined!!!

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Answer 9

If someone else (am assuming your parents) choose your spouse, they are going to look for qualities that you wouldn't consider when choosing a spouse. Things like what her family does for a living, what work she does, if she can play the good woman at home. These things should be the least of your worries if she doesn't love you or if you cannot love her.

Answer 10

one of each. then if you never find love you've at least got the arranged marriage to fall back on.