Does such a pedophile exist?

Question

Is there such a thing as a pedophile who realizes they are sick and that sexual abuse harms children, so they get professional help and NEVER molest a child... OR, do they all act on those urges, and try to justify their perveted behaviour?

To JHMHSI: The reason I doubt there are any pedo's like this is because I've heard that the justifying is part of the illness, and they beleieve what they do is completely fine and doesn't hurt the child. Just wondering if that's true, or if I've got it wrong.

So Jack, can we then assume that child molestation isn't as big a problem in less sexually repressed societies? Do you know of any research that supports this?

BTW Jack, if you want to answer my question, you can click on "edit" at the bottom of your answer and add some more details. You probably already know that, but I'm curious to see what you have to say!

Point of Interest: NAMBLA (North American MAn/Boy Love Association) states on their website that their goal is "to end the oppression of men and boys who have freely chosen, mutually consensual relationships"...Yeah, consensual if you brainwash them!

Answer 1

In a nut shell.....KILL all child molesters...they don't belong in society....raping children ..period....NAMBLA IS A SICK SOCIETY
Children cannot consent to sexual acts period....people please...

RE the comment directly above me.....I would rather raise my children wisely and safely....than to trust anyone...and NO I do
not want anyone speaking to my children...that I do not know..period...

Answer 2

Well, if you mean are there people who can have fantasies of relations with those too young to be legal and never act out those fantasies, but keep them in their imagination alone -- yes, I have known several such people.

Generally, people (especially men, but sometimes women, too) who seriously love children will sometimes have fantasies about being involved in that precious time in a child's life when they are just starting to become adults. When sexuality is a new and very magical thing. But they recognize that to play out such fantasies would cause no end of trouble, and they usually have little trouble concealing that they are even interested, let alone in keeping their hands to themselves.

The problems crop up when a child or young adolescent is more seductive than is wise, because they do not understand the implications themselves. At that point an adult has a very large responsibility to respect the rules more than the child herself (or himself) does. And parents need to educate the children in how it is "not fair" to tease Uncle Ernie, or to practice flirtation on those who are taboo.

However, we do live in a world where some people do not care very much whether they are going to cause trouble of one sort or another for others, and will go a long way into irrational thinking to attempt to excuse their behavior. It is that behavior, not the scenarios in the imagination, that is the pedophile in the sense the law means it.

Answer 3

Wow, that is a difficult question, but one that is a good question. Thank you for a clear and understandable question.

I guess it is possible for such a person to exist, that gets help and never molests a child, however most people that have inappropriate thoughts and actions, do so because those behaviors were learned as a child. Child abuse tends to be passed from generation to generation, and those that abuse were usually abused when they were children.

Inappropriate sexual attraction and behavior tends to be a personality disorder, and as such, personality disorders are extremely difficult to treat. The current treatment strategy seems to be to teach the individuals strategies to avoid temptation and to manage their impulses. Unless society is willing to utilize military grade brain-washing, it is unlikely that a person's personality can be changed.

Answer 4

Some of them know they have a problem and they try to seek help. Unfortunately, there is so much hysteria in our country about pedophiles that a person seeking professional therapy for pedophilia is about the equivalent of that person signing a guilty plea.

I have read in the past, case histories of persons who felt they had a problem with pedofilia and deiliberately tried to take themselves out of the path of children so as not to be tempted.

This compulsion is an illness like alcoholism or drug addiction and it may be managed with medication and therapy, in some instances.

I am not saying that all people who are convicted pedophiles are guilty either because I think there are some who are convicted, wrongly put into jail and branded as sex offenders while they are innocent.

I think back to that whole McMartin Nursery School scandal in the 1970's and it makes me shudder. Basically, the therapist set the kids up for inventing all these far out fairy tales about the McMartin family and their Day Care center. Later it was found the therapists were at fault and the children had never been molested by the McMartin's or their staff but the McMartin's business and lives were ruined forever.

Please read this and wonder what is going on in our country now:

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/McMartin_Preschool

I think the media has whipped our country into a frenzy about pedophiles and it's not doing the population any good.

First of all there are not as many pedophiles as the media represents. It's just the media gets hold of these cases and goes nuts.

Second: what are we doing to our kids? If you go into a public place and say hello to a child or try to speak to a child you are met with horror and the child is terrified and the parent (if the parent is around) whisks the child from your presence. Because you spoke to the child!

We are raising a couple of generations of hysterical terrified children who will grow up to be paranoid antisocial adults and this is going to come back to bite us.

What if a child is in trouble and too scared to ask someone for help? What if children grow up and expect that every stranger that tries to talk to them means them harm?

We all have to reflect on what the media is doing to us and our kids.

I think we all have to watch our kids carefully but I also think kids have to be taught that not everyone is going to kidnap them or hurt them.

Do you want to be branded a pedophile because you gave a child a cookie or spoke to a child or hugged a child?

Answer 5

I am sure there are many who realize that it's wrong, but they justify their behaviour by saying they "can't help themselves." As for the ones who get professional help, are there any who never molest a child? I honestly hope so--however, I think those unnatural feelings remain--they are just taught how to suppress them. If they get too close to a child--those feelings explode. It's like a recovered alcoholic--they can never touch alcohol again, because they'll revert.

Answer 6

yes maybe when they get caught playing uncle and are forced into therapy and would have to be treated by case but there's probably a critique to follow on every that is the same but I doubt it would work. A ped uses manipulation to gain the trust of his victim [a little boy]and I'M surprised such a organization still exists and hasn't been shut down by the f.b.i or.... because what they purpose is illegal, because what kind of weird relation are they thinking of??? a grown man.........

Answer 7

I work in what we like to coin as the "mental industry." Being a psychiatrist I have found through research there are 1000 people thinking about doing it for every one that does... and that is a low estimate through various studies. The problem lies within oppression for all of us as children in learning about sexual behaviour, which shines through many people upon getting older. Also, the suppression in America of sexuality being demonized helps in that oppression. Think about it, violence is okay in tv and movies, but sexual content is villified, when ironically we are not necessarily violent creatures unless it is for survival and we are all sexual creatures. We're doing everything backwards. be well, jack

Answer 8

I remember one time, I seen a man who was a child molester that actually begged to be castrated because he had tried to go to therapists and still couldn't control his urges. It is a sick cycle because pedophiles were sexually assaulted as well when they were children.

Answer 9

..... why would you think that there aren't? I'm sure there are... they don't have to stop having "impure" thoughts just to stop molesting. They just have to not act on them.

Answer 10

We both know the answer to your question.....