Here's a story...
This guy I know is my best friend.
I love him.
He loves me.
Of course, the nice story doesn't end there. I'm only 14- my parents said I could date this specific guy when I was 15. (Just cause he's really a great guy- my parents agree and have met him several times)That happens in 5 months. The problem is that I'm not sure my parents will really let us "date" when I'm 15. (I think that includes being able to go to movies without my brother inbetween, holding hands, kissing sometimes (not constantly)... Occasional dinner...etc.) Is that too much to ask at this age? The guy is 16, super respectful, and has shown it by his patience... He's already been waiting to be able to date me for about a year and 2 months. I've known him for like a year and a half. What do you think is appropriate? (A little about me: I'm 14- But don't let numbers fool you- I'm Sophmore in Algebra 2, top of my class. I'm extremely mature and have so far have a good relationship with my parents.)
2006-11-29 18:21:37 · 9 answers · asked by Lauren 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Well young lady, you seem like u are a very mature girl, yet in still you are only 14, but at 14 as you said yourself you can make wise decisions and be trusted. You have to admit you can understand your parents position. If you are mature and responsible as you say you are then -No at 14 that is not too much to ask, if you both understand what could happen if u don't be careful. I have a 14 year old sister and she is dating a boy 16 too, and at first my parents and myself was against it, but they both have shown us all that they can date and be responsible and still keep there grades up in school. So far for them it has been good. Actually we have seen a improvement in here grades.
Here's a suggestion, maybe let your parents know you asked this questions and let them see the responses, this might help your parents understand and realize your a mature young lady and see what other parents have to say on the issue. Also to your parents at least she has come to you, most her age would lie and sneak around to see the boy Good Luck.
2006-11-29 18:34:30 · answer #1 · answered by TAMI G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 13. Group - 12. Why? : Because your with your friends and it's like basicly hanging out not really dating so no pressure only friends :D Double date : 13 like when your close to your 14 bithdday or not RIGHT when you turn 13 Why?: because when you settle into begin 13 then like you and your bff can double date and it will be fun ( double dated 4 timesbefore lawlz.... good times) Single : 13 near 14. Because........ onyl if yournot a teeny bopper and are actually inerseting in not lifrting just having a good sweet boyfriend. Go for it. Much love xx kitty
2016-05-23 04:18:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Going to a movie seems extremely reasonable. There are people all around you, sure it's dark but it's still public.
Holding hand is absolutely okay.
Kissing is all right, too, as long as you know what you're comfortable with ... because young men sometimes take French kissing and such to be invitations to undressing and more intimate things. You have to know when to say STOP, I don't want to go any further. Decide ahead of time.
Dinner is also cool.
I was actually allowed to do a lot more than that when I was 15, but I was at a boarding school and they actually had "spies" (strategically placed dorm managers and such) everywhere we went.
2006-11-29 18:44:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you both like each other and he's been cool about things for over a year now, you should be allowed to date. Your parents might think they're "protecting" you, but all they're doing is setting a completely arbitrary date by saying that you should wait until your 15. I'm not saying be a rebel or anything, but do stress to your parents that you do have common sense which was handed down to you by them.
2006-11-29 20:15:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I like Tami's answer to your question.
Here's something else.
Try group dating. Go with a best friend and her boyfriend. Go to public places together like restaurants and malls and movies. You lose the brother and gain peers. You will need this.
Mature or not, you are still 14 going on 15 and teen hormones have a way to get out of control when left alone....as in just you and him together. Try to live the romance of it first, that first relationship, that first crush.
As for your parents, responsibility is earned, one act at a time.
2006-11-29 18:43:14 · answer #5 · answered by Mr O 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because you have academic strengths doesn't mean you are mature. Maturity grows slowly, so wait until you turn 15. Your views will change on some things, and you might get a better perspective on things. Good luck! ^_^
2006-11-29 23:09:32 · answer #6 · answered by roxusan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
parents have the say so right now. Don't try to deceive them
2006-11-29 20:49:11 · answer #7 · answered by blank 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
see friend it is not ur age.i guess u r expecting a lot.after 16 u can do all this.kissing????????????????????????????????????? r u mad?the boy will not face ny problem but u will be the one suffering
2006-11-29 21:51:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
trust ur parents
2006-11-29 18:45:11 · answer #9 · answered by ratedronline 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋