Do you find it hard to care about others?

Question

I have 'friends', but they are merely people I hang out with, so I like to think of them as acquaintances. In all honesty, I'm apathetic towards them, even if I've known them for a long time. Is this true for the majority of people?

Or do you develop such strong bonds with people normally? I mean, I joke around with them, hang out etc, but in the end, who really cares?

hmm, so I've probably only had one "good friend" in my entire life...

It's just people use the term "friend" so nonchalantly, so it gets me thinking...

Answer 1

Chances are, you found the one person you were close friends with; but, for some reason, the other friends you have aren't people you can be all that close to. That happens. Its just a matter of meeting people you can really relate to.

People don't just form strong bonds with every-old-body they meet.

At the same time, it is normal for people to be able to care about even those people they don't feel close to. I have people I only know a little but like, and there have been times when they've been ill or had some bad thing in their lives, and I do care very much and find myself hoping all works out ok for them. When I find out it has, I can kind of relax.

In a large group of friends its very normal that there isn't "20 close friends", but maybe absolute apathy about them isn't quite how it should be either. Maybe you aren't hanging around with the right people. If you have a good time, though, and joke around; then for now it serves a purpose. Don't worry if you don't feel all that close to them.

While most people may not go so far as to say they're "apathetic" about their less close friends, there are really only a few people in our lives that we get all that super-close to.

Answer 2

Theres a difference between having a true connection with people (good friends) and simply hanging out with people (acquaintances). That doesnt mean that you dont care about anyone.
I feel the same about most people. The only true friend I have ever had, other than my spouse, is my childhood friend who I see very rarely. People who I chat with at work or have lunch with are merely acquaintances to me.

Answer 3

I agree with EleanorRi...Many people pass in and out of your life. Not all will be friends and most will be acquaintances. A friend is someone who accepts you as you are. You don't have to change to there demands and you don't make them change to yours. Still they are there for you when you are at you lowest point. I have alot of acquaintances but very few friends. The ones I do have are special.

Answer 4

I often feel this way. It is hard to find people you truly care about but I believe it is important for a fulfilling life. I recently did a sort of friend update and I still hang out with evryone but I opened myself up to some new and interesting people who know who tey are and can just be comfortable. I find myself much happier and in turn, I care about them because I would be sad if they weren't around. Do some searching of yourself so you can find others who make you happy and carefree and you will love them for their friendship.

Answer 5

I have never had a friend that I felt was a true friend. Someone who is there for you through thick and thin. All of my so-called friends are fair weather friends: there for a good time but that's it. I try not to care but sometimes it hurts.

Answer 6

I used to care only about myselfs, but the ghost of christmas past cured me of that.

Answer 7

who cares?????? i know i don't. If you don't like them don't hang out with them duh.
Thanx for the 2pts.