Since my younger brother was born 18 years ago me and my step father have never gotten along. You see my step father is from the middle east and he thinks women basically should roll out the red carpet for men. So my step father has always shown favoritism to my younger brother. Anything my brother did was right but if I made a mistake i was dead wrong and was punished.I remember as a teenager going over to my grandmothers crying about the unfair treatment. My mother did the best she could because #1 he made her quit her job and #2 my mom has rheumatoid arthritis. Now i that i am grown and have moved away from home I am much happier. I do not speak to my step dad at all because he is such a chauvanist. I am worried that my little 8 yr old sister will be treated the same way i was because she is a female.However, I promised her that she could live with me one day. My mom beggs me to reconnect with me step dad, but i can't because he irks me with his sexist remarks. What should i do?
2006-11-29 18:07:32 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
this is why i am uncomfortable with the idea of marriage. My step dad had the nerve to ask me one day did i want to marry one of his close relatives. I just walked away.
2006-11-29 18:09:31 · update #1
well, people frm middle east are usually seasoned to think this way... im sure ur brother also will one day be like father, if not taken care of. Done worry about your sister, just keep meeting and speaking to her regularly and be her link to the real world so that she can grow up to be like you.
2006-11-29 18:19:46 · answer #1 · answered by freshlimesoda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that your situation is a little different then most stepparent-stepchild problems because of the blatant mistreatment, favoritism and sexism which is really unhealthy for you to expose yourself to. As long as you can maintain a halfway decent relationship with your mother and sibling, that’s what is important. It’s too bad that you cannot do so with your stepfather, but I don’t believe that’s your fault; you were just an innocent child. It may not be a good idea to tell your 8 year old sister things like “you can come live with me” because that’s only going to cause trouble. Remember that she has to live with the man for the next few years. You don’t have to have a relationship with him, but you don’t have to start any wars either. Your mother is just going to have to except your choice because she has no say. I think her need for you to have a relationship with him is more for her than you.
Not all marriages have to be the conventional idea of marriage.
2006-11-30 02:16:21 · answer #2 · answered by A 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your mother should have got a back bone and not given in to the man, thats why he treats you that way because his wife wouldn't stand up to him. He needs a reality check, chauvinist! You did the right thing by moving out, and your mum seems too weak, why is she asking you to mend the relationship with your father - maybe he has brainwashed her too!
2006-11-30 02:33:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't speak to either of my stepparents not becuase they are openly mean, but because I'm apathetic and they don't really care, I don't really care, so who cares?
My stepmother is a golddigger--she doesn't work while my dad does. They have a kid now too.
I like my stepfather, but he has a temper, so I avoid talking to him in case I irk him.
Plus, I don't usually live at home, so there's no need to bond with them.
2006-11-30 02:11:40 · answer #4 · answered by Curious 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
good for you, tell her your father needs to learn how to treat hischildren equally.
2006-11-30 03:19:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋