Am I the only one?

Question

Am I the only one who can rarely have an orgasim dureing sex, and when I say rarely I mean less than 4 in a year....I need tips

Answer 1

Have more time for forepaly rather than intercourse.

You are absolutely right that this is a question a lot of women have. They are looking for the "Look, Ma! No hands!" orgasm. According to Shere Hite, only 30 percent of women orgasm through penile thrusting alone. This is not about failure — this is about anatomy. Consider this: when a man masturbates, he stimulates his penis, which is loaded with nerve endings. During heterosexual intercourse, his penis is stimulated in a similar manner. For a woman, the nerve endings are concentrated in the clitoris. (There are as many nerve endings in the clitoris as there are in the penis!) During intercourse, her vagina is stimulated, but her clitoris is not. The woman who orgasms through intercourse alone may be feeling pressure from her partner's pubic bone, or feeling sensation from one partner's hand touching her "love button" or clitoris. Another way women orgasm with their partners is by masturbating in front of, or with, them. In that way, there is a bit less pressure on intercourse, partners can take a risk with each other, AND partners can teach each other how they like "it." Remember, sex is not inherent — it's learned.

If you have other questions, try reading Lonnie G. Barbach's, For Yourself: The Fulfillment of Female Sexuality, or Shere Hite's, The Hite Report. Barbach developed and ran therapy groups for pre-orgasmic women. The value of Hite's book is reading about women who describe their experiences in their own words. Have fun practicing!

Answer 2

My God! What a tragedy. Your partner needs to get with the program. You have some communicating to do. Try and talk to him about what it is that you like the most and how you like it. Don't be shy because unless you want to keep, NOT hearing the music and the bombs go off, you had better be brutally honest about things.

I don't know what you and your partner are doing but here are some things you might find useful. First of all, get him to give you oral sex. Don't leave him with out supervision; tell him what to do. Use fingers also. Even while giving oral sex to you. This works wonders. The best way is to use two fingers and find the "spongy" flesh that's about 2 inches in on the roof of your vagina (meaning facing your front). Use significant pressure and push in and out like you would with a penis.

Doggy style is great because you get deep penetration and the angle is perfect because it stimulates the front part. "Preheating the oven", is a good technique. All I mean is, foreplay. But it can't be boring and rushed. The whole idea is to get you excited. Tease each other to the point where you want to orgasm or close and then get to the good stuff. WET your appetite, so to speak. Hehehe.

Vary what you're doing. Sex should never be like brushing your teeth; there's nothing routine about it, nor should there be. Be spontaneous and try new things. If you eat steak all the time, you're going to get bored of it. Same thing applies for sex. If you're going to do the same thing over and over again, it's going to get old.

If you're not sure what to do, buy some porn. It sounds dirty, perhaps, but it's good research. You may find some useful information in there and who knows, you may like watching it together!

Answer 3

Hun, I totaly hear you! I am 21, and have never had an orgasm threw vaginal sex alone. Some women just require more direct stimulation. There also are ways to "train" your body to be more receptive tho- like stimulating your clitt during sex to trigger a reaction that helps you to be more "orgasmic" during sex. This technique may take some time to master, but it may be worth the wait! Good luck :)

Answer 4

Honey you are not alone. I have a friend who is the same way and I dont always have them. What you can do is have some foreplay beforehand that stimulates you. Find out what works for you and have your man do it for you. Remember, we need to get off just as much as the men do.

Answer 5

i wouldn't know anything about an orgasim because im a virgin.

Answer 6

No you are not alone, never had 1 ever lucky you, at least you know what it is like, died and gone to heaven lucky you. lol.

Answer 7

nope. you're not alone at all.
I needit to answer so I can check the answer later on sis.
Thanks