Question about ANAL SEX ???

Question

Ok, I don't know how to ask this, but here i go...

Me and my bf have been trying to have anal sex for some time (2 years) and we haven't really done it. He trys but after a while i just pulled him away and we just do something else... the thing is that I would really like to do it, but i have some issues...

1.- Is there any way to clean the inside of my anus before doing this ?? ( i know... ) HOW ?

2.- How can we do it without pain, we have used some lub but when we use it, sometimes it hurts a little ( not the action, but the lube itself even before we do anything... ) what lube should we use ?

Please, serious answers only...

Thank You !

Answer 1

Feels strange putting a topic up on the web like that doesn't it?
OK, That I know of, I don't think there is any easy way of cleaning the inside of your anus out. In the shower, I just try to flush out, clean away what I can so it's semi-clean. For the Lube part, I would try AnalEz. (I think that's how you spell it) It has a bit of a numbing agent in it so it doesn't hurt so much. Also you may want to get a dildo and loosen yourself up if that seems to be an issue. I used WET once, it was horrible. Never again! Try that

Answer 2

Well at the risk of sounding crude take a dump before sex. You could also try an an enema but you don't need to go that far. A dump and a shower if you are really conscious should be sufficient.

It could be you had an allergic reaction to the lube. The woman I've done it with have always used vaseline. I googled a few sites these might be helpful.

As far as the pain thing well you could practice with smaller items and work your way up to your bf. Or you could be on top and slide down on it so you can control everything in case he gets carried away. As you do it more often it becomes more pleasurable. That doesn't mean the first time has to hurt. As there are more nerves there when done right I find women even find it more pleasurable. Or at least pleasurable enough to have an orgasm via anal alone.

When he enters just totally relax. If you clench up it will be counter productive to what you are trying to "achieve."

Answer 3

Well as far as the cleaning thing, I would just take a bath and clean it out. As far as the pain, make sure you are completely relaxed, if you are at all having doubts, or are scared, it is going to hurt, because you are going to tense up. If you go to a sex store, they sell lube that is especially for anal sex. Or you can use KY jelly, BUT make sure you are using enough, even if it seems like too much, it isn't, you wanna lube up very well the first few times you do it, until you get used to it. You didn't say if you were using a condom or not, for the first time, I would use a condom that is lubed up, that way it will go in alot easier, and alot less painful for you. I hope this helped, and sorry if it didn't.

Answer 4

1. lube - go to a sex shop, not wal-mart for lube... saliva works to but it takes longer... you want something water based, ask the the attentdant at the sex shop he/she will point you in the right direction. start with 1 finger to loosen you up then move to larger things ;)
2 . sometimes it just hurts. you have to be very very relaxed and being quite horny helps too. as far as cleanliness i wouldnt suggest a mexican buffet followed by a nice anal romp. seriously you should know... if you have been having soft serve poo all day it might be a bad idea... but if your pretty regular you might be ok... sometimes you just dont know... if you use a finger or 2 and it comes out dirty waash hands and try something else. if clean keep at it.
and you might ask the person at the sex shop for some more advice... they could probably help too :)

Answer 5

My dear inexperienced son.......

#1 douche. Do it in the shower with some warm(not hot or cold) water. You will be squeaky clean. You might get a few pebbles so be ready to wash em down or squat over the toilet before letting your water load go. Do this several times to be squeaky clean! Wash the outside with scented soap afterward.

#2 Water based lube!!! Go Slow. Yes it hurts BUT there is something good too! And while he is in you try stroking yourself slowly, it helps with the pain.

FACT: A man's G-Spot in his prostate which can only be reached through his anus.

I have cume and made guys cume while pounding away while no one touches their dick! The Prostate is that powerful!

GO SLOW, TAKE YOUR TIME AND REMEMBER A BOTTOM LOVES PLEASING HIS TOP. IT IS AN ACT OF GIVING.

PLEASE BE SAFE. Too many guys are getting the "BUG"

Answer 6

1. You can douche with an enema if you must... no matter how you approach this... you will get a little 'shitty' from time to time... use a towel.

2. A tight anus - from lack of use - or fear of what's ahead - or both - will always hurt until you learn to relax. As they say - practice makes perfect. Don't use Vaseline or even worse Vicks. Good lube costs real money.

Answer 7

If your lube causes pain, it could be that it's got Nonoxynol-9 spermicide in it, which can cause irritation in some people. If glycerine based lubes are what irritate you, then consider one of the silicone based lubes like Wet Platinum. There's also a glycerine free lube called Liquid Silk that people are raving about.

Answer 8

well the only way to clean is to use the restroom obviously. aside from that, the more relaxed you are the more enjoyable it is. the lube i prefer is called astroglide. if it hurts apply more lube. the best thing to do is for your boyfriend to "warm you up" what i mean is, while making out or foreplay have him caressing your bum (to get used to the idea of him being back there) then maybe if he has some lube on his finger he can start off by putting one finger in, then maybe two then three, then you will be relaxed enough and stretched enough that he could put his dick in you. as long as you are relaxed and use enough astroglide you will love it. i know i do!

Answer 9

Most of the above is good advice.
Don't overdo the douching. You are losing some helpful bacteria as well. A little brown is okay and gets flushed with the condom.
I liked the suggestion for loosening up with your partners fingers. You may also start with a small dildo.
Have fun and stay safe!

Answer 10

Everyone has answered really well, but just a side note:

If you aren't sure of your partners STD status, then definately use a condom, also when using a condom, don't use oil based lube as this will cause the condom to break.