What do I do?

Question

I don't know what to do. My hubby works hard and when he comes home he goes straight for the computer. I know he loves me and everything but I am 19 weeks pregnant and needing a lot of love... maybe even just a little bit. I can finally convince him to come lay down beside me to cuddle and watch TV but by then it's already 11 before he decides to come in the living room. I know it's not the pregnancy because he is very excited. I have a feeling I will get a lot of advice to either spoil him somehow or give him sex but where is my spoiling? And sex is not comfortable to me, plus I'd rather have just a little cuddling every once in a while without him drifting off to sleep or wanting to get on the computer to play pool. Talking doesn't seem to help. Sometimes I just feel like shutting up and staying by myself because I am upset, but he bugs me to tell him what's wrong when I am like that, I don't want to guilt him. Distancing myself even more seems to be the only way to cope now.

Answer 1

Some times guys will pull away and run to the computer for help, connection understanding.. whatever it is..

I think your on the right track.. Start making a time to have cuddles.. i love cuddles too.. and taking the time to talk and listen to there day asking questions about something they are int rested in..

Its showing your interest in them.. .. They connect on a sexual aspect.. not all the time but most of the time.
Women connect on a emotional level that most men just don't understand.

Laying down together watching tv.. is a GREAT step.. keep it up .. start making it a regular thing.. and you will find the addiction for the computer will slowly fade..
Cutting it out in one hit. wont help unless your very dominate and he will follow your stance.

Other wise just persuade a few hours per night with you will be nice. That way you get your love he gets some of the things off his chest and if anything will find that talking to you will give him what he needs rather than talking to children on the computer that know nothing, about what he is going though.

Blessings and Best of luck.

Answer 2

my wife complains about the same thing, what is it with you women