she's very VERY depressed. she told me she was going to blade herself to ease her emotional pain. she said it's better to feel physical pain than emotional pain... no one could change her mind, including myself... i'm very worried, can't stand to see her like this. can anyone please tell me what to do to make her stop her from hurting herself?
2006-11-29 17:06:09 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Well this is very hard topic..coming from experience. The only thing to truly do besides get her a counselor is to keep her busy....very very busy. If you have known her for a while think of things she liked doing before she started wanting to blade herself and stuff. Try doing those same old things she liked. Be extra thoughtful but don't take pity. A lot of times it is done for attention although at the time it seems to be better then emotional. Also try to find out the very thing that put her to this point and find a way to take it away. I hope some of this helps.
2006-11-29 17:12:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she wants to blade herself so that the physical pain covers up the emotional, tell her that the emotional pain will still be there even after the scars of the blade marks disappear. She has to deal with the root cause of the emotional pain. Sometimes the reason is hidden under layers of different experiences. The main thing is that she must realize that she is someone of value and that if there is a will, there is a away. Walking away never helps, the pain just follows u where ever u go. U cannot substitute pain for pain. U cannot be healed from pain if you are in a given up state. U must realize your worth, then know that you have a right to be happy, and then take action to remove the things that hurt you.
2006-11-30 01:13:45 · answer #2 · answered by Nats 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is your friend depressed? Someone depressed is usually feeling very lonely. If you make it out to her that you are available to talk, to listen, for anything and that she's not alone, it will boost her self esteem, make her a little happier. Her emotions won't be in such shambles.
No pain is better than pain. Period. Take her out to have some fun to get her mind off of things. A depressed person usually moaps around. If your friend is surrounded by people - friends who care for her- then she'll have no room to moap around. She'll get back into the hang of things. Encourage her.
If I made add a religious aspect... God's there for her. She shouldn't be worried. She shouldn't fear.
2006-11-30 01:12:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My sister actually does this - it's when people who are very sensitive by nature are experiencing so much emotion that they cannot deal with it - they cut so that people can see on the outside what they feel like on the inside. Your friend needs.. and i mean NEEDS to see a psychologist, because she needs to deal with whatever is causing her so much pain. This is not her fault, it seems that it's almost instinctual. But she is lucky to have a friend like you... I really hope you can convince her to talk to someone. Best wishes.
2006-11-30 01:10:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I want to make myself very clear when I say TELL SOMEONE. Whether it is her family, a counselor, doctor, or anyone who can intervene. Cutting is very dangerous, and she could hit a artery, which lies deeper in the skin, and could potentially bleed out, and infection is a huge risk. She needs to be counseled and medicated. Please, please, please, do not ignore that fact that she is telling this to you for a reason, SHE WANTS HELP. Talk her out of it if you can, and talk about who she feels confortable going to, to talk about this problem. Please dont feel that you alone can get her through this, or just hope that she doesn't do it. If someone says they are going to do something, then most likely they will do it. Please contact your local "HELP" agency and they can better direct you. Good luck, and remember you are not alone.
2006-11-30 01:18:00 · answer #5 · answered by tigergirl_2001 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell someone. Are you in school? Tell a teacher. Every school has one cool teacher. Can't wait? Tell her parents. If she is for real, you have to tell someone who can stop her and HELP her.
Unless it is her parents causing her all this emotional trauma, tell them. You can do it without your friend knowing its you if that is important to you, but the important thing is to TELL SOMEONE WHO CAN HELP YOUR FRIEND.
2006-11-30 01:10:10 · answer #6 · answered by TheSchmett! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I cant think also of doing so, and why you want to spoil others mood also by asking this? Its very disturbing. Dont leave her alone till she comes out of depression.
2006-11-30 01:09:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here is a guide for people who want to stop friends from harming themselves:
http://www.golivewire.com/forums/topic.cgi?topic=118969
I hope that helps!
2006-11-30 01:10:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anne 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is very serious. Get her to a doctor immediately. If nothing else will work, call an ambulance.
2006-11-30 01:17:13 · answer #9 · answered by drshorty 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
tell her parents that your friends cuts herself. she needs medical attention fast. if you don't you may lose your friends forever. just think what if you don't tell anyone. you'd be stuck with guilt for a long time if she died.
2006-11-30 01:08:29 · answer #10 · answered by collgegrl11 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋