Do you think if there wasn't such an emphasis on masculinity and femininity, there wouldn't be homosexuality"?
Or such a stress on gender roles their would be gay?
Or boys mocking the effemint boys?
2006-11-29 17:05:05 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
People do not choose to be gay, they only choose to be honest about their sexual attraction.
2006-11-29 17:08:46 · answer #1 · answered by χριστοφορος ▽ 7 · 7⤊ 1⤋
you already asked this question
and I am going to answer now the same way as I did before
Homosexuality is not an abomination. I am a firm believer that Gay's and Lesbians were born that way. Why would someone chose to be so different? I am not gay, but some of my best friends are. They would give anything to be like other people and be normal. They did not chose to be this way I can assure you. What they do with each other in a sexual manner can be concieved differently. I personally don't have a problem with it. It is their choice and if that is what makes them both happy and they do not drag other people into it, then I see no problem with it. Other people cannot even fathom any justification in two men together and those are the people most commonly known as homophobic in our society.
Gay people might be frowned upon, but so are people who are racist and judge people on the conditions that they were born with.
And tell me this, If God is errorless, how come there are Gays?
I think that God placed homosexuals on earth to teach us acceptance and equality. Noone is getting the point though.
Do you honestly think that a homosexual with a choice would CHOSE to be so different? Do you think that my 13 year old nephew would have cried every night and wrote a 12 page suicide letter if he coulod have just CHANGED his sexuality?
Let me ask you this, can you CHANGE your sexuality? Right now. Try it. Can you CHOSE to be gay right now? I didn't think so. And why not? Because you were born that way.
Do you think that God put homosexuals on this earth so that you all could have someone to abuse?
NO!
2006-12-03 10:50:40 · answer #2 · answered by fiyera 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sexual orientation has nothing to do with choice. Nobody wakes up and 'decides' that they want to be anything other than straight. If it were a choice, I couldn't understand why anyone would choose to be gay when they know there's people like you running around out there who will demean us and act as though we're some kind of "deviant option". Homosexuality will always exist, in past cultures where gender roles were not defined, or strictly defined, homosexuality still existed. In the world today, homosexuality exists stronger than ever, yet gender roles are very loosely defined now. You're going to have to get used to it, 'sport', homosexuality will be around for as long as you'll be around to see, and then some.
2006-11-30 03:20:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe people choose their sexual orientation. They just "are". I am straight with no thought or conscious decision about it. My sister is gay, again with no thought or determination to be so. Unfortunately though, in our world, once you realise that you are gay, it is followed by a lot of thought, because it can become an (uneccessary) issue with a lot of people, political and religious groups. It is an issue often with family, friends, co workers etc. in ways that straight people never have to think of when it comes to their sexuality. "Choosing" to be gay and take on all the complications that can go with it, doesn't seem to make a lot of sense does it?
We two grew up in the same environment, and yet turned out completely opposite in our sexuality, so there goes the socialization theory too.
As far as gender roles, they have existed since "Adam and Eve", and are fueled by fear, insecurity, "survival" of the most powerful, and the male need to control. It appears it's not going to change anytime soon. No matter how enightened we are, and how we wish to spread that, and love and tolerance, there will always be the right wing fundamentalists. They will fear and condemn what they percieve to be a threat to their nice, orderly heterosexual, male dominated world. Hence their mocking at best, gay bashing at worst.
All this brings me to another question. Why is it that as of late we are seeing so many high profile opponents of homosexuality caught and exposed engaging in exactly what they condemn??? Hmmm.
2006-11-30 02:02:31 · answer #4 · answered by lveno4 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
There isn't a "why". Why is a destructive question for some things you know. Why should there be a "why" really? Read the evidence given by others on this one. It's a natural thing, and all the religious arguement in the world means nothing in the face of this fact.
I chose to express some parts of my inner sexual fantasy landscape and ignore others. In that respect there was some choice, as there is in the actions I take with respect to my sexual interests. Why should I choose restriction however unless that restriction is what I actually want?
2006-11-30 05:25:51 · answer #5 · answered by karnautrahl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before you actually ask these kinds of questions, unless you are just a simple-minded individual, and you are really curious about such matters... you could actually *read* about such things... either in *real* books or in a wealth of places on the Internet.
2006-11-30 01:56:02 · answer #6 · answered by guicoder 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
When did you choose to ask mean spirited and ignorant questions?
One's sexual orientation is NOT a choice.
Only living honestly and within your orientation is a choice and the only choice many of us have.
There have always been "stresses" on gender and their perspective roles throughout time. There have also always been gays/lesbians.
Children are ALWAYS cruel to those they don't understand or who are different. The kid with glasses, the first kid with braces, the kid who walks funny or talks funny or is overweight at a young age. Effeminant boys and "husky" girls are no more special than any of the above examples.
2006-11-30 01:35:30 · answer #7 · answered by DEATH 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No, I do feel that I was born gay. I mean, back when I was in Pre-K, yeah...way back then, me and my friend would play with each other (sexually), and then I moved to another state, and again, new boy, only in the second grade but I got into his pants too. And I was too young to know about this! It just happened. Then in the 6th grade when hormones started to kick in- I was interested in guys, not girls. I tried to fight it but I could not win. I did not choose it, but I know it's me. That's just the way I am. And technically speaking, when you are being created- you get (for example) X cromosone- mommy, and Y cromosone- daddy. Well if you get enough of Y cromosone you are physically a male, but if you do not continue to get enough Y cromosone and you get more X cromosone, you can in-fact think like a girl- with just a few more of mom's cromosones than dads.
2006-11-30 01:30:24 · answer #8 · answered by Josh B 1 · 5⤊ 0⤋
not sure, but to the person who said homosexuality was genetic, isn't that a stretch. The genes would not get passed on. Eventually, even if it were a recessive gene the number of homosexuals would dwindle. Since there seem to be a growing number of gays it leans more toward choice or influence rather than genetics.
2006-11-30 01:57:39 · answer #9 · answered by songndance1999 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I dont believe anyone chooses to be homosexual but I do think people choose to live a homosexual lifestyle because I know many men who are homosexual and have married and have children and ended up very unhappy!!
SO why do I choose to be gay ... because I do not want to be one of those guys.
2006-11-30 03:22:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
(1) Not a choice. Born that way.
(2) No, I don't think that at all. Sexual orientation is neurological, not psychological.
(3) See answer 2.
(4) See answer 2.
2006-11-30 03:18:41 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋