I already see a therapist
2006-11-29 16:56:12 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I need more than just my therapist's help. thats why i posted this question
2006-11-29 17:01:28 · update #1
If you've not brought the person responsible to justice it's possible they're somewhere still abusing ... do your best .. do what's right ... while it wasn't your fault, you can't let it go until it's taken care of .. I think that's why you're seeing a therapist .. it's not resolved.
2006-11-29 17:00:50 · answer #1 · answered by thellord_thighgod 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Therapy is a great start, as long as you are honest with your therapist and are really working on the problems that you have had or are having now, as a result of your past. If you lie to your therapis (or yourself) and keep saying everything is fine when it isn't, you are asking for trouble. I find it helpful to learn to live in the present, not in the past or future, and that is a good coping method for some people....you know, "One day at a time." Anyway, cheesiness aside, be yourself, ask for help when you need it, and make sure you are honest with yourself and your therapist, as well as your parents (if you are still involved with them) and your friends. Don't let things get out of control, you are in the driver's seat now. Best wishes. :-)
2006-11-30 00:59:44 · answer #2 · answered by Jen626 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope it's all over. If it is, it's just that -- OVER. Come to think of it, you can think about it for a long time and say "why did it have to be me? Why couldn't I have had a normal childhood?" but you are just wasting time. All this while you could've listened to some really rockin' music, read a great book, or just gone bungy jumping.
Why waste time and tears? You can't fix the past. You can't even get the person who abused you to apologize and say he was a bad person -- to most people, ego is the most important stuff.
All you can do is change your attitude towards life. And once you decide to do that -- it won't even take a snap.
But the big question is -- are you ready to do that? ;)
2006-11-30 01:15:23 · answer #3 · answered by WaterStrider 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't give much detail, so it's hard to give specific advice - that would be what your therapist should be doing anyway.
My take on it is this; The past is the past - it's our history. It is part of us but it does not define us, we do that for ourselves. It is within you to move beyond what you suffered and become a better person.
You've already seen the path you don't want to take. Now find the path YOU want to walk in life. How? That is unique for each of us, but it starts with friends, mentors, teachers and embracing those things in the world the make you happy, offer you hope and challenge you to better yourself.
These choices are within your grasp. Take them & find your future!
2006-11-30 01:13:15 · answer #4 · answered by bionicbookworm 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hey, I was too. I have never seen a therapist, but I have a very deep relationship with Jesus. I know it sounds like the last thing that should happen, but I wouldn't have made it without His Truth....Not the church, but Jesus himself. I ran to Him and talked to Him about why things happened and how I should deal with them. Let me tell you, the abuse was really bad..in that ritual kind of way. He talked to me and told me the truth. He first started off telling me that it wasn't my fault, which is a hard thing to understand...and I've never had to be on any medicine or talk to a therapist. Also, I have really good friends too that are completely understanding and have an amazing relationship with Him. I'm sorry about the things that have happened to you and hope that you ask Jesus to help you with your healing.
2006-11-30 01:07:44 · answer #5 · answered by Sleepy Shona 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
continue with the therapist if you really want to but it's also find a good friend to talk about it with you would be surprised how good it can feel talking to someone who is not paid to hear you talk and give you advice but above all i recommend not forgetting it but instead remember it for although it is painful, believe me i know, it can also help make you a stronger or weaker person depending on what you let it do to you.
2006-11-30 01:05:18 · answer #6 · answered by mikey 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
think about the good things. rain drops on roses and wiskers on kittens. everything happens for a reason, just think that for every bad thing that happened to you two good things will come of it. turn your weakness into a strength. my friend who was abused moved away from her dad and started a help group that helped other abusd children move on with their life. join a group that will help ease the pain. the past is the past but it can help make a better future.
2006-11-30 01:09:04 · answer #7 · answered by Chris 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
things like this will never leave you. i was not abused, but did have a traumatic event in my past.
the best you can do is live well. do what you enjoy and remember that evil people are stuck in a worse hell than you'll ever be in.
2006-11-30 01:06:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me save you some money. Get over it. You can not change or understand the past, you can talk it to death.
Taking, rehashing, and all of that is a waste, I went Thur it 20 years. The best thing to do is accept it and move on.
2006-11-30 01:04:46 · answer #9 · answered by dancinintherain 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋
get over it, many millions of kids have been abused usually by relatives ,this is one of the most common negative domestic ocurances.
live the live you got now
do not let the past get the better of you and destroy you
2006-11-30 01:06:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋