how do you know when it is over?

Question

been married 12 years, together 19. he lies, blows me off and won't even hug me anymore. He just walked out on our conversation and went to bed. I'm so depressed. what do i do?

Answer 1

You know it's over when you've explored every route to save the relationship. You know that there is nothing that can be done to save it. You are ok with that. And there are no hard feelings left.

Answer 2

If you want to save the relationship and he's willing, then both of you could see a counselor to try and work through your issues. For me personally, lying to me would bring it to an end fast. It really comes down this, do you both want to try and save the relationship. Also, is there a chance he's seeing anyone else. I hate even asking the question, however, when people grow indifferent to you and the affection goes away and you feel no respect from the other person, sometimes it's because they are seeing someone else. I wish you luck. I'm divorced but every situation is different. Best wishes.

Answer 3

I would love to talk with you. I have some bad times with my boyfriend too. Email me at [e-mail] I am with mine now 2 years, and I am successful and he is not. I stay with him cause I love him but he does not treat me as good as he should sometimes, is controlling, and has major anger issues. He gets pissed when he don't understand things, and misunderstands everything, and then he don't want to talk. He says he loves me and that is why he stays with me, but he is stupid, I deserve better. I am pretty, I have never cheated, and he has, I own 3 homes and went to college, and I am 27, he is 22, and has nothing but debt and no college, we are opposites. I get depressed too, especially when we fight at night and I have no one to talk to. When can we do when we need someone to talk to at night and there is not anyone. Maybe we can instant message each other when we have issues.

Answer 4

Loneliness is worse when you are actually with somebody. Give em a taste of their own medicine. Blow him off, walk out when he strikes a conversation. If he disapproves, then remind him of the similarities in behavior.
Better yet, hide a camcorder, and film his coldness, and say you have a sad movie you'd like to watch with him.

Answer 5

Above all you are an individual. You deserve to be treated as one regardless of marriage. If your husband can't respect that then YOU have to respect it yourself. If you feel that you are being mistreated and have informed your husband of this over and over again and he still doesn't get it, then it's time to take YOUR OWN life into your own hands. This has , is, and always will be your own life to lead. The choice is yours.

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Answer 6

reality hit me and I realized it was over when I accepted the fact that it takes two to make a relationship work, it can't be one sided or one side efforted, Good Luck and God Bless ,Counseling might help if you can get him to agree, other wise throw in the towel and look out for your self and happiness, don't make yourself miserable and let him drag you down, I know it's not an easy decision but I wouldn't be telling you if I hadn't experienced it my self

Answer 7

whats good for the goose is good for the gander.. true???? stop giving a crap about how he's actting and start being about you, time to go buy a new outfit go get ur hair done, nails whatever it is that makes u feel more like a confident woman, start going out and doing ur own things, having lunch with the girls, or a hobby or something start living ur life for yourself.. and start giving him the cold shoulder , stop being the dutiful wife that puts up with all his B.S. make him fend for himself.. right now he's loving the ego gradification of having the power to manipulate ur feelings, he loves that ur chasing him, he loves the power of being able to walk out on the conversation just leaving u hanging ... STOP.. are u worth being happy? are u worth having a man treat u with atleast enough respect to stay in the room when ur speaking to him? to give a crap about your feelings.. OF COURSE U DO.. so start giving him the cold shoulder , give him a taste of his own medicine.. do whatever it takes to make urself happy "without" him, to feel better about yourself, he wants to treat u with disrespect fine 2 can play that game go out and dont bother to tell him where ur going or when ur comming back, and if it bothers him let him know that when he wants to start treating u more like a wife u'll start acting more like one.. till then u'll start feeling better about urself, gaining confidence in who YOU are as a person.. and worse case scenerio he doesnt give a damn, and it your marriage ends, what would be better , to be confident and happy with who u are if he choses to leave or to already be so depressed and down for the count???? Most men like confident women, and they hate being ignored, they hate not having all the attention on them , give it a shot at this point what do u have to lose, ur already at wits end, if it unfortunately ends in divorce, u'll be ready to face the world if u get yourself together now... i hope for your sake it gives him a wake up call instead 19 years is a long time to throw away.. but lifes to short to be treated like u dont exsist in your own home..

good luck,
Go find urself again..

Answer 8

When you have had enough you will just leave there is no way to tell when its over that's up to each individual person only they know how much shiat they are willing to put up with

Answer 9

You know it's over when you're so desperate to hear someone else say it, that you post it on the internet! I'm not being sarcastic; I am being totally serious. You clearly just need to hear that you're not crazy....so I'll say it, you're not crazy! Take care of you.

Answer 10

Have you talked to him about how you feel? Asked him what direction he wants this relationship to go? A marriage is a partnership that should not be ended lightly.