I haven't had any real good friends. I've had some friends but none like my best friend. I've known her since freshman year of high school. She and I would do everything together, but then she went away to college. She has changed a lot. She drinks and she started smoking and whenever I talk to her, she always snaps at me. Should I just end the friendship, or what should I do? I feel like I have nobody to talk to anymore. Thanks for any responses.
2006-11-29 16:49:48 · 13 answers · asked by meitsme 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
People change alot from high school to college to adult life - I find, that people are sometimes so busy "experiencing" the different periods of their life that they forget about the most important people. Don't push your presence on this person - it will only get you to experience more of her attitude - let her be. When she is ready she'll come to you - and if she doesn't - oh well then she's lost a good friend and that's her loss not yours - YOU're the one that tried to keep the friendship going.
Have faith! Good luck!!
2006-11-29 16:54:22 · answer #1 · answered by alea_hc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever you do don't end it. She is going through a big adjustment in life right now. I know, i did too. although i didn't smoke but i did drink and your life tends to change a lot when u are in college but once u get out and become more mature u start to come back around again and not even realize the things u did until someone tells you. But just stick in there with her.
2006-11-29 16:53:44 · answer #2 · answered by tre_132mp 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just talk to her and see what's wrong. Most of the time, talking works. But if she doesn't open up to you then there really isn't anything that you can do. If that doesn't work, then maybe you should try meeting new people and making other friends. I realize that you do care about her, but there isn't anything you could to change her if she isn't willing to herself. So, talk first, if that doesn't work, end the friendship. Making new friends may seem hard, but if you really try to be nice to everyone then you'll have very many friends.
2006-11-29 16:55:59 · answer #3 · answered by anon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its always good to keep trying to keep the friendship alive. If she's changed to a whole different person, then its best just to end it before you get hurt. Become more outgoing and meet new people who you like now...not in the past
2006-11-29 16:52:17 · answer #4 · answered by Courtney 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its up to you if you feel its worth it to hold on. If you decide to try and keep the friendship, just don't put yourself in a position where she'll hurt you. Keep tabs, call to say hello every now and then. Just let her know you'll be there when she needs someone she can trust. In the meantime, go and try and make new friends. Get involved in activities that interest you. If you're in college, try to associate with people you can get to know. I know it can be difficult, just hang in there man.
2006-11-29 17:01:05 · answer #5 · answered by Jay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe start smoking and drinking. Or a couple other options are start playing World of Warcraft or move to Antigua Guatamala.
2006-11-29 16:52:10 · answer #6 · answered by b_dubs_3030 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friends dont just give in on each other, be there, even in the moments she hurts you, all you can do is wait for her to reach out to you. Let her KNOw that if she needs a shoulder to cry on or she needs someone your there for her.
2006-11-29 16:55:30 · answer #7 · answered by disturbedxxcalmness 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
End the friendship and make new friends.
2006-11-29 16:55:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
gee, im sorry to hear about that. well, if i were you, i would stop the friendship. who knows? it seems to me that she is into "drugs" and "alcohols" and stuff like that. i cant guerantee u more friends but i guarentee you a better life, unless she isnt that horrible as u described.
but if i were u, i'd stop the friendship
2006-11-29 16:53:04 · answer #9 · answered by LOL-sweety_pie-☆ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to find a good friend nowaday...It's more like "a friend in benefit, is a friend indeed"....It's a sad world, but we all have to watch our backs.
2006-11-29 16:53:42 · answer #10 · answered by Infinite 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋