some reallly imp people in my life often complain that i m somtime rude while speaking but i never realise so?

Answer 1

Observe yourself in the mirror and observe how you talk, act and behave. Then change for the better.

Answer 2

Think before you speak. Try calculating the response you will give if someone says those words to you. If it sounds inappropriate, try to rephrase the statement in another way or reset your tone to make it sound right. This is the only way to do it. It will take a lot of thinking in the beginning and will seem very difficult but in about a month, you can train yourself to mellow your words down automatically. Gradually, it becomes your second nature. Think as if you are standing in front of media and eminent news channels and any wrong words can turn all the media against you. So, be very careful before you utter a word.

Answer 3

I had that same kinda thing go on with me....I just think some people are just a bit too sensitive. Tell them to give you some examples, then you can think about it at another time, when your in a different mood...
Hope it works out!

Answer 4

yes i agree it's probably how you say it so try to speak more politely, and maybe feel kind thoughts while talking.., people listening to you will bound to feel your kindness i think...

Answer 5

Art of Conversation

Always speak the truth. Never hesitate in speaking the truth even at the greatest risk.

Speak only when you must, and always talk with a purpose. Too much talk and useless conversation betrays a lack of seriousness. Your are accountable for every word you utter. The Angel of god records. "A supervisor remains vigilant to preserve on record every speech that is uttered by his tongue."

Always speak politely. Wear a smile on your face and a sweet tone in your speech. Always speak in a moderate voice. Do not keep your voice so low as to be inaudible to the addressee, nor raise it so loud that the addressee might be over-awed by your voice. "Surely! the harshest of all the voices is the voice of the ***." [31 : 19]

Do not spoil your tongue with dirty talk. Do not speak ill of others. Never indulge in backbiting. Do not complain against others. Never indulge in mimicking others to ridicule them. Do not make false promises. Never laugh at others, nor boast of your own superiority or indulge in self praise. Never get unreasonable and rash in conversation. Do not pass remarks by a disgraceful name. Avoid swearing frequently.

Always say what is just and fair regardless of any loss of yourself, your friend or relative. "And when you say something, speak what is just even if you are talking about your relative."

Be soft-spoken, reasonable and sympathetic in your conversation. Do not utter sharp, harsh and teasing remarks.

When women happen to talk with men, they should speak in a clear, straight, and rough manner. They ought not speak in delicate, sweet tone lest the listener should entertain any foul expectation.

If the impudent with to entangle you in dialogue or altercation offer them 'greetings' politely and leave them. Those who indulge in loose talk and absurd conversation are the worst lot of the ghetto.

Keep in view the mental level and outlook of them man you are talking to so as to make him understand. If the addressee cannot hear or is unable to catch your meaning, repeat what you have said before without any resentment.

Always be brief and to the point in your talk. It is unfair to prolong discussion without rhyme or reason.

Be simple and clear and speak in a passionate and heart-warming style. To seek reputation through oratory, to try to impress people with flowery language, to seek popularity among people, to adopt a proud and haughty mein or to deliver speeches only for the sake of fun and recreation --all these are the worst habits that corrupt the man to the core of his heart.

Never indulge in flattery, or ingratiate with anybody. Always mind your honour and respect and avoid anything below your dignity.

Do not interrupt and interfere in others' conversation without their permission, nor intercept others conversation in order to say something yourself. If, however, you must speak, do so with the permission of the other.

Speak slowly in a proper and dignified manner. Do not speak in a hurried manner nor indulge in fun and jokes all the time as it degrades you in the eyes of others.

If somebody puts a question to you, listen carefully to him and make an answer after careful thought. It is simply foolish to answer the questions without due consideration. If the questions are being put to somebody else, do not be officious as to give answers yourself.

When someone is narrating something, do not say "we know already." May be he reveals something new and impresses you by his sincerity and piety.

When you talk to someone, give due regard to his age, status, and his relationship to you. Do not talk with your parents, teachers, and elders in a manner in which you would talk with your friends. Likewise, when you are talking to youngsters, speak with affection and elderly dignity.

While engaged in conversation, do not point out towards any one lest he should conceive any misunderstanding or suspicion. Abstain from eavesdropping on others.

Listen more and talk less. Do not reveal your secrets to others. Once you disclose a secret to someone, never expect it to remain a secret any more.

Answer 6

may not be what you say, may be how you say it