Motherinlaw from hell! help! The devil reincarnated!?

Question

she is truly evil, she threatened to slap me on our wedding day, she cut our cake and served our food before we even got there! We left the wedding reception after 30minutes, she smashed my centerpieces and tore my bouquet apart and threw them in front of my front door! She has my husband wrapped around her finger, and acts like we can't make it w/out her in our lives. I am at a loss, because both of our families dislike each other, but his mother is 10x's worse. How do we make our marriage survive? I know i can't say well she can't be apart of our lives at all, because i tried that, and we both need our families in our lives. But how do I get her to back off? Simply talking to her doesn't cut it. HELP!!!! She lies, makes up stories, name calling you name it. HELP!!

Answer 1

sound like the twin of my ex mother in law. I am assuming her hubby isn't around to torture anymore. Hubby feels like she is protecting his interest. He needs to be reminded of who his interests really are. Ultimatum time. Don't let this unhappy person get you down to her level, where she will be more comfortable with you. Move away. Find her a Hobie, like "find your way home"

Answer 2

You have big troubles my friend. All I can say is that you married her son. You didn't marry her. If you live near this person, you should move. You should move far away. The other side of the Country would work. If you and your husband truly love each other, you are all you need. I live in another state from my family. An occassional visit works well. My ex-out laws lived within a quarter mile of where my Ex & I lived. It was probably the biggest reason why we broke up. All my Ex-wife wanted to do is be around her parents. We had no alone time. It smoothered me. She gone & doing the same thing to another guy just 6 months after our divorce was final. Ask yourself if you really want to stay in this marriage. If so, start a life of your very own, just you & your husband.

Answer 3

Your husband has been emotionally abused for his entire life. Breaking the emotional hold she has on him will be nearly impossible, and then only if he sees the need himself and determines to separate himself from this co-dependent relationship.

My mother wasn't quite this bad, but close. My brother and I both had the same type of problems that children of alcoholics experience. His life has been more devastated than mine. I think that is because he was the child she favored. Isn't that ironic?

For years I was in my comfort zone only when I was in emotional agony. That's the state I was most used to.

Your mother-in-law is an emotional bully. You need serious therapy - NOW. Don't just accept what the first counselor has to say. This is not a situation that needs a little adjustment. Drastic action is called for.

I second the opinion of the person here who said move far away.

Answer 4

I'm sorry but if my mother-in law did that on my wedding day I would have called the cops and then pressed charges for vandalizing and destruction of property.

Just stay away from her, she sounds like a looney that would physically hurt you.

If your hubby keeps siding with her maybe you should separate from him for a while. I know its his mom and blah blah blah but anyone who smashes a center piece at a wedding or threatens to hit the bride is nuts. He should be more concerned about his mother possibly doing you physical harm.

Answer 5

What a terrible situation. If you are a Christian like me, I would pray to God to intervene. Apparently, your mother-in-law has many issues. Don't stoop to her level. When she acts out, take a deep breath and step back. And have your husband defend you. If he doesn't, he should. Don't let a crazy family ruin your marriage if you really love your husband. Have faith and you will get through this. I feel so bad for you, I am going to say a prayer for you right this minute, I hope you don't mind.

Answer 6

First of all, get this resolved before you even think of having kids.

She is the type who thinks no one is good enough for her little boy, and I say little boy because she probably treats him like that to this day. Better tell hubby that you are #1 now and mommy will have to start kissing some a s s if she wants to be part of your lives anymore. Hubby has to grow a pair and tell his mom to cut the umbilical cord and to back the phuck off.

Answer 7

Where's the beach and have ya got any SPF 1 million lotion? Overheard while I was whinin, "Oh you wanna meet Ewell Gibbons and Jack LaLane, I got them here, and both complain. The one about the roots, berries, fruits and nuts, dint save him, and Jack, I wish I could give him back, all he does is obssess over Suzanne Somers and ab master in the commercials on TV. I wonder if he might get upset if I tell him, "Hey ya know, if not for that tail, yer kinda HOT."

Answer 8

You do have the mother in law from hell. And you are not going to change that. Once a BIT*H always a BIT*H, There is really nothing to say to you but good luck. I mean she is not going to like you or anything you do so you have one of two choices either you learn to deal with it. or you get out of the relationship, it is only going to get worse and cause more strain in your marriage.

Answer 9

Wow, if she has such total control of your husband, i am shocked she LET him get married. But this sounds like it is doomed, unless for some reason she dies or magically disappears. But my God, read my questions about my fiance's mother---he will not stand up to her, she is controlling, manupulating, a gossip, blah blah, blah. All i can say is do what you can---if you can live with it, stay, but sometimes love for your husband is not enough to survive the stress of his parents. Good luck and keep us posted!

Answer 10

You needed to figure out how to deal with her BEFORE you got married! Now you're in quite a situation. Try counseling for you & your husband; bring this up as a major concern. The counselor should help lead you & your husband in the right direction.