Jim and I have been going out for 3 1/2 yrs - both met in College in Bakersfield. During this summer, Jim had moved to Los Angeles for his full-time job and I drove to his place every weekend to spend a quality time. The last time I seen him in L.A., he took me out to Olive Garden and there was a 10 min wait. While we were waiting, Jim pointed out to me that he had recentley taken out a female colleague out to lunch and pointed to a corner where they both sat and had enjoyed themselves. My question is, "Why did Jim share this with me? And, what does this mean or sound to all the women that is out there?" Please help and explain. At that moment I was a bit sad and asked Jim, "Why he told me?" Instead of Jim explaining, he changed the subject." I wonder what's going on with Jim?
2006-11-29 16:36:04 · 8 answers · asked by Bobcat9 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Times-a-changing!
My dear......Jim sounds like a real nice guy........n he is very considerate & caring for others' feelings!
I believe jim is subtlely giving u a message.......that he has found someone whom he enjoys being with........n he did mention that this is one of his colleagues ........ which means he gets to see her almost daily.
Jim is considerate enough not to tell u bluntly........he just mentioned his recent date to u.......n changed the subject when u persue it.
Remember......u r both college grads......educated.... learned & intelligent.......so there is no need for him to give u details.........n it shows his quality in NOT going into details.........he would expect u to understand!
what's going on with Jim?.........he is moving on.....getting his career in shape.........n establishing his niche in this working world.........n developing feelings for someone who is close......near to......& constantly in his sphere of breathing & living!
My dear.....dont feel hurt......do your own thing.....n please give Jim his due respect........he IS a nice & very considerate person..........otherwise u wouldnt drive out just to be with him each weekend.
Now that Jim wants to build his own world & nest....... please let him...........n I am sure he will always be your good friend that u could count on any rainy day!
Humans have sensitive feelings.........unfortunately...... they do get very hurt at times..........Take care!
2006-11-29 16:52:17 · answer #1 · answered by sandy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not Jim so i really can not tell you.What was going through his mind?The fact that he choose not to explain to you.Why he told you that?Choose to change the subject.Does not sit well with me.It seems almost like he was telling you that he is dating other women.I think you should pick up the phone and call Jim ask him to explain.What is going on?
2006-11-30 01:14:06 · answer #2 · answered by noga 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like his way of taking a breather to see what Jim really wants!
2006-11-30 00:44:00 · answer #3 · answered by LittleFreedom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing going on with Jim. What's going on with you? He's sharing with you a nice experince he had and that's it really, Don't look for problems or they might just appear.
2006-11-30 00:45:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
jim feels you are too easy...after all, you drive to see him and he does nothing....men are not that bright, they need a challenge. this new girl, she is a mystery and he hasn't won her over YET, but he's working on it. tell jim you've met someone else you'd like to date and see what his answer is, the ONLY way to get him back in your court is to make him jealous, if he;s not, that's your answer.....
2006-11-30 01:15:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He need a companion in a new place.
Maybe more than a companion.He didn't make any commitment with you in the first place.
He is telling you that is time for you to look for a new companion too.
2006-11-30 01:12:00 · answer #6 · answered by Janet Y 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He likes the girl and can't stop thinking about her. This was his way of preparing you for the news. Sad but true.
2006-11-30 00:41:24 · answer #7 · answered by Princess P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds complicated!
2006-11-30 00:38:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋