My wife cheated on me, we had been marrien for 10 yrs, I found out 2 wks ago I am so depressed, we have 2 kids, we both are in our 30's, I gave her everything she needed, she was (at least that is what I knew) so happy with me, our sex life was incredible, I thought we were the ferfectcouple, and I am right now in a unbearable pain, cannot describe how dissapointed I am, I want to stop loving her, heal and move on but it is harder that I thought, please HELP!!!!
2006-11-29 16:34:48 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Do you need to move on? Is there no possibility of reconciliation? I ask because you say you still love her -- in that case maybe you can work it out.
If you both agree that the relationship is over than I'm afraid there will not be a quick fix. I'm so sorry this has happened. All you can do is try and keep your chin up and take it day by day. Please talk to a therapist, he/she will help you through this in the best and probably fastest way. And try to take it easy on yourself.
I wish you luck.
2006-11-29 17:25:19 · answer #1 · answered by I'm Trying 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believe me when i tell you it will happen on it's own,you will probably forgive her if you love her so much but every chance you get you will remind her of her wrong doings and everything will become hell,then you make up and then it will happen all over again. A time will come where you will see her in a different light and will feel detached from her and then you can decide to move on , right know you have a fresh wound that won't heal no matter what she say's or do to make you believe that she is sorry. Then it get's worse,every time she walks out or talk on the phone you will be suspicious of every thing she does and it will drive you crazy all i can tell you is time will heal but not sooner. Good luck!
2006-11-30 02:40:25 · answer #2 · answered by flaca 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband did the exact same thing. I am also your age without the kids, dogs here. I wanted to die and even suffered from a stroke. I know this is not what you want to hear but if you love does not end in one day of just for one particular mistake. I never stop loving my husband and I never stop saying to him that I love him. However I made sure he knew how much that hurted me and how he lost my trust. We are starting over now and the best aproach was my faith and put my marriage on the scale. 10years of marriage and all the good things he did for me, vs that foolish mistake he confessed to me. Is not easy, I wish you the best and I hope you get the strenght to overcome this.
2006-11-30 00:43:48 · answer #3 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's been only 2 weeks, healing processes takes years, u have been married to her for 10 years in a relationship u thought was perfect u cant snap ur fingers and expect all tht love and happy memories to go away...give it time...just remember if u do decide to separate don't go ahead and play with another women just to get back at her don't make someone ur rebound. it's only but natural to love someone.....give it time. u can love her on the inside just don't show it on the outside.
2006-11-30 00:38:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes time...and support! You need a good friend, or someone you trust to rely on right now. My best friend helped me get through a very difficult time. He was at my side through "the grieving proccess. Then got me out of the house, made me have fun. I married him a few years later :)
Have faith! It'll get better!
2006-11-30 00:40:48 · answer #5 · answered by pr1ncezz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I feel the pain, Im sorry, I really dont know, Maybe you can forgive her and work this out. She may see the grass is NOT green at all. Good Luck.
2006-11-30 00:50:57 · answer #6 · answered by dontknow86 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont know..
if someone give u a good answer pls. let me know
tnx. in advance
2006-11-30 00:41:45 · answer #7 · answered by anne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
been there bro..i dont recommend drinking..what i do recommend is closure...yell..scream..cry..but get closure
2006-11-30 00:44:04 · answer #8 · answered by mgibson92804 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dump that *****!
2006-11-30 00:37:30 · answer #9 · answered by scarletornot 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋