Ive known this guy for atleast a year.Hes became one of my best guy friends...and we both like eachother as more..but we r just sticking to being friends...but..i just found out he is atheist.Im a christian ..tho i dont attend services that much i still believe in God.I tried talking to him but he just got mad at me.I really want him to believe b/c i care about him.Help?
2006-11-29 16:02:08 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
oh yeh...Im not pushing him...i just asked him why he doesnt believe in God.I dont believe in pushing someone either.
2006-11-29 16:27:53 · update #1
I understand your situation. I have a friend who is an atheist as well, and I consider myself to be a "Christian with some non-Christian beliefs". My friend is very rational, knows more about religion in general than a lot of my Christian friends, and can hold a very good debate about religion versus atheism. He understands and accepts what I believe (and the fact that it can change at any moment), and I understand and accept that he doesn't believe. I care about my friend a lot too, but I understand that he has made his choices and that I have made mine.
I would avoid discussing the topic with him if it annoys him. I discuss religion and morals with my friend a lot, but that's only because we're both comfortable with it. If he's meant to believe in God, it'll happen in time. If he isn't, it won't. You've said you aren't pushing him, and that's good.
You really can't force anyone to believe in God. It's one of those things you have to find on your own.
2006-12-02 11:36:33 · answer #1 · answered by The Logophile 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You may want him to believe, but it is really none of your concern. If you were a Hindu and he were Christian, would you try to convert him to Hinduism?
There are many religions around the world, and there are many atheists around the world. I do not believe in God either, nor heaven and hell, nor angels, nor prayer.
If you want to convince him or me, for that matter, show us prayer works. Find a man or woman with an amputated leg, and pray for this leg to grow back.. Hey, it just won't happen because prayer does not work.
Hey, maybe he should convince you that there is NO God. Hey, guess what? There is no god.
2006-12-03 14:29:39 · answer #2 · answered by Richard A 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you care about your friend, then you would respect him and not be so holier-than-thou in your attitude. Almost 100% of atheists have come to be so through a rational process of weighing the evidence. Unless you can provide objective, scientific evidence that proves the existance of god, then you will never be able to convince him. Emotional pleas will not work, nor will emotional blackmail.
How about just leaving him alone?
Even better than trying to convert him, how about researching the beliefs of most atheists? You might be surprised to see how upstanding they really are!
2006-11-30 23:02:31 · answer #3 · answered by Kris K 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all just because he is atheist that doesn't mean he worships the devil or anything. He might just be more agnostic....meaning he is not sure of what he believes. Especially if he is young. I am a Christian now, but I never believed in God until I was about 26 or 27.So I wouldn't push the point too much or befriend him or anything like that.....unless he is like sacrificing animals or something crazy like like lol.
2006-11-30 00:08:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You can talk to and atheist until you are blue in the face and it won't do any good ,,,, Just like it's your right to believe ,,,, He has the same right to reject it ,,,, You can lead a horse to the water but you can't make him drink ,,,, If religious issues is a problem then I'd suggest that you move on and let it be ,,,, You will do nothing but make an enemy ,,,,,,
2006-11-30 00:46:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's the problem with Christains... atheists don't care who you are... you can be Christain, Muslim, Buddisht, Atheist, Agnostic... doesn't matter. If you're a good person, most atheists will befriend you. Christians, on the other hand, find it a shock if someone they know is atheist or nonreligious... They have to go around asking their pastors how to deal with them, as if they are a threat... atheists are people... really smart people, in my opinion... if your truely his friend, then his religious preference shouldn't matter to you.
2006-12-01 02:28:06 · answer #6 · answered by rb_1989226 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think we should all try to accept others as they are, rather than try to change them. I doubt you would want him trying to change you; and it appears that he has not tried to change you in the year that you have known him.
Examine your own feelings. Why does it bother you that he is an atheist? When you get your answer, then ask yourself why you feel that way about your answer.
2006-11-30 08:01:42 · answer #7 · answered by Math Guy 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have a friend that is atheist.... hes a really cool person... actually now that i think of it i have a lot of them... I believe in god.... But i would never change their faith....its their choice not yours. What does he need help with...he made a choice.... and IF HE wants to change his beliefe then he will....if your a true friend you wont push him to be something hes not... If u liked him before u knew...there should be no difference.
2006-11-30 00:13:33 · answer #8 · answered by shannyshanny79 1 · 5⤊ 1⤋
You've got your beliefs and he has his. Just leave him alone, he probably gets a lot of people telling him to convert...which might be why you've just found out.
2006-11-30 00:10:02 · answer #9 · answered by i luv teh fishes 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Opposites attract. My wife is catholic and I am a full-blown athiest. I do not put my beliefs on her, she does not put her beliefs onto me.
Sorry, but religion separates people.
2006-11-30 00:18:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋