my boyfriend is married and his not with her becuz she left him and how would i know that he doesnt want her back and besides how do you deal with your other half being married while you r pregant for him he buys you stuff care for you what do you do when she wants to come back to him
2006-11-29 15:58:47 · 23 answers · asked by native 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
well honey i will say this i was with the same man for 24 years and i have been married the last 16 years and will be divorcing soon. why might you ask? well because he decided to leave me for a 23 year old who is now pregnant from him. will he leave her right now? no does he still try to sleep with me? yes does he? no. the reason why is because i value myself more than that and once a cheater almost always a cheater and without a finalization to their marriage you can never truly know and even if a divorce does happens there are no certainties in it. you need to come to terms with the reality of the situation and set some guidelines for yourself and stick to them. expect no less. the chances are you are going to get hurt. rebounds usually do not work out and it is irresponsibility to bring a child into a relationship you are so unsure of. the one thing you always want to do is set a good example for your child. what if it was your daughter in your shoes?
2006-11-29 16:24:44 · answer #1 · answered by kattz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first you should not have been a fool like that cause even thought they say that seperated in most cases they really are not eventually she will come back to him and trust me he will leave you high and dry and you will be left alone. dont get me wrong he seems like the type to help you with the kid but as far as every thing else goes no you should of not even went there with him cause him and his wife might still get back to gether
you made the wrong decision
2006-11-30 00:09:53 · answer #2 · answered by mother2be 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all why are you pregnant by him? Have you lost your mind. Never, Never get in a relationship with someone who is married and get pregnant that is my first advice to you second there are no guarantees when they are married read my lips "NONE" so now what you need to do is sit and wait because you dont know how this is going to turn out but my advice to you would be dont get your hopes up high that he will choose you over her so I would be making some plans to go to court.
2006-11-30 00:08:45 · answer #3 · answered by postal_marg 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hope he divorces soon and marries you, but sounds doubtful based on your question.........if you are rather young I'd give my child up for adoption and learn how to use birth control.....NO Excuse..........there are already too many children from single parent homes and it is just not right we all deserve a loving mother and father that is willing to pay for our education. I'm not trying to be mean just knowing what I would want as a baby in some woman's womb in your situation.
2006-11-30 00:06:33 · answer #4 · answered by Okay9 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
when u get involved with a married man, theres always a chance he may go back to the wife. theres nothing u can do, u made a mistake of getting involved with a married man who wasn't divorced yet. the wife can do whatever she likes, but it is his choice here. if he goes back to her, than he really isn't in love with u like u thought.
2006-11-30 20:08:32 · answer #5 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when someone is married I dont get involved. A wedding ring represents a big STOP SIGN to me and I wouldnt bother. I look for men who can provide me with a uncomplicated, honest and genuine relationship.
2006-11-30 00:01:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like a bunch of drama.
the only thing you can deal with right now is yourself and this unborn child if you are the one pregnant.
chose these guys a little more better.
your special and a married man is not treating yourself as special as you are.
2006-11-30 00:01:56 · answer #7 · answered by beachgirl90 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why you want to make your future sad , without humor and laughter . Don't go behind him , find another caring person for you to lead a simple joyful life .
2006-11-30 00:12:39 · answer #8 · answered by your noon 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You remind yourself to WAIT and NOT get involved with a married man until he is divorced.
You & baby might be on his gift list, but she might always be the wife he just can't leave.
2006-11-30 00:08:56 · answer #9 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Um...honey, u may want 2 consider letting him go. I dont want u 2 get hurt. but just think, if he cheated on her, wut makes u think he wont do it 2 u. I think its great that he takes care of u, but that doesnt mean that the 2 of u have 2 be in a relationship. Good luck
2006-11-30 00:02:38 · answer #10 · answered by 1hotmama 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋