My ex-financee is a Brit. He is a liar. He played my 9 yr old daughter, telling he she could call him "Daddy". Telling her he loved her, just to get to me. I persume for a green card. I discovered his lies and now my daughter is hurt beyond words, wanting not to believe he is wrong that she still loves him. He is partying right now with 2 other women. I seen his hotel reservations. I am now the bad guy, taking in all my daughters hurt
2006-11-29 15:39:13 · 22 answers · asked by kitty cat 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
awwww he's an asshole!
Take him out and leave him by the curbside for the sanitation truck to come and pick him up.
2006-11-29 15:41:47 · answer #1 · answered by Cuddly Lez 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I don't see it as such and most the people I know do not. But then again I have 9 piercings and 10 tattoos at the moment. As long as a tattoo or piercing is done well and suits the person I think they are wonderful. I find both piercings and tattoos to be wonderful works of art and it is crazy to see how people usually react to them here when it is normal for a 5 year old child in some places to have a tattoo or a piercing because it is part of there culture. So unless you have 90 piercings in your face I don't think it is trashy. Tattoos in general I do not, as said if they are done well and suit the person. :]
2016-03-29 16:38:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy is definitely trash!!! I know your daughter will heal from this but try to be more cautious about bringing men into your daughters life...for this very reason. It is important for her personal growth that you really know what a guy is capable of before you allow him to "play" daddy. I am truly sorry that this guy has hurt you and your little girl. I know if you are anything like me, you hurt more for your daughter than you do for yourself. You are not the bad guy, use this as a lesson for her...teach her that you are strong and that even though it hurts, you are willing to take a little heartbreak to know that you will no longer allow this man to treat the two of you this way. It is better to be on your own than to be mistreated.
I wish you luck and I hope you don't let this dink of man come back into your lives!
2006-11-29 15:50:50 · answer #3 · answered by yidlmama 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's horrible. People like that are those you'd like to...
I'd just get away from him. A man like that never grew up. I'm 17, and i know better than that. Only thing i can say is find support family, friends, clergy? I can pray for you and your daughter.
REMEBER YOU ARE NOT THE BAD GUY.YOU ARE THE MOTHER! TAKE AUTHORITY! STAY STRONG! you're a woman, and everyone is here because of them.
But what do I know... I'm a teenage boy. Do things with your daughter, to start that relation damaged from that JERK of a fiansee. I'm sorry that happened, and you got one person on your side who'll pray for you.
2006-11-29 15:58:15 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy is definitely not worth your time. I'm horribly sorry that someone would even do that to you. Within time your daughter will come to her senses, but bothering her about it too much will only make things worse. I know from personal experience because I have a 10 year old sister! Just make sure she knows how much you love her, and maybe do something special for her.
2006-11-29 15:43:17 · answer #5 · answered by lexxon0121 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry for you sweetie, I know you are hurting right now, not only for you but for your child. People that use children as "leverage" for anything, green card or anything are wrong. Children don't understand and its not fair for them. You will be ok, time heals all pain, it just might take a little while, in the me en time try and give your daughter the extra attention she deserves to keep her mind off of him!
2006-11-29 15:50:15 · answer #6 · answered by veronica c 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thankfully you said "ex" fiancee. I think you answered that yourself.
Your bond with your daughter will never fade if you are always there to take in the hurt. Be the bad guy... because your daughter has no other way to deal with it. You have already won!
2006-11-29 15:49:02 · answer #7 · answered by justr 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave this guy alone and focus all of your attention on the well being of your daughter. Children are resilient so she will heal but from now on do everything in your power to protect her from the scum of the earth. Never let anyone in your childrens circle until you are 100% positive of their intentions. Good luck and I wish your daughter well.
2006-11-29 15:45:04 · answer #8 · answered by shellese2 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some people will do anything for a green card.
Just let your daugther know that "Daddy" should be reserved for someone you both can trust. And even though all she has now is "Mommy," your love is more than enough to fulfill for both. Your daugther may be young, but she will understand.
2006-11-29 15:44:22 · answer #9 · answered by tofu 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah. He's a piece of shi*. In time your daughter will understand that this person was not what he seemed and pretended to be. But you are not the bad guy. Be smart and cut your ties with him if you haven't already. He's your garden-variety louse. Good luck.
2006-11-29 15:52:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be patient. Time will heal her pain. You know your not in the fault here and it is way better that he is out of both of your lives. Live and learn, but dont give up. There are some good fish still in that sea. I truly hope you find one that can help mend both of your hearts.
2006-11-29 15:49:48 · answer #11 · answered by jesswonderin 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋