A few weeks ago this guy came up to me and asked me stupid questions on dance day! I was overjoyed and I started liking him too! Well, when I told him how I felt...he hurt me with his silence and then finally went out with someone else! Now, I have moved on and I like another guy, I told him I liked him, he said it's cool...and it didn't go further than that! NOW, there's this guy who keeps flirting with me...I sorta like him too! LISTEN: I DONT WANT TO GET HURT AGAIN....so should I tell this guy that I like him and risk getting hurt or let nature take its course???
2006-11-29 15:26:20 · 17 answers · asked by HAPPY <3 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I don't know you or your history so I am going to take a blind crack at this.
It seems like it is so important that you hook up with someone that even a guy coming up and asking you stupid questions can catch your interest. I can see where that could be fun and even a bit funny, but I think the fact that you were overjoyed is telling about how you value yourself. I believe you are putting too much stock in having a boyfriend (most likely to boost how you feel about yourself) and that is making you come off as desperate. Relax and let things unfold in normal time. Don't rush it just because your insecurity HAS TO KNOW RIGHT NOW! That will blow it for sure.
Because it is so important to you, I am sure that when you tell them that you "like them" it comes off more like this:
"I like you and want to marry you and have your children and be close to you as my only one forever even before I know what your favorite color or your middle name is". I'll bet that is a big turn off.
You are definitely moving too fast, pushing too hard and sending the wrong message (that you are desperate and high maintenance) Your standards are too low and you are worth much more than any guy that is willing to say hi to you.
So, take a deep breath and see if this guy is really good enough FOR YOU instead of the other way around. Remember that anyone that ever rejects you is doing you a big favor in the end by eliminating themselves from your consideration and not waisting any more of your time with a relationship that would eventually fail.
I wish you well and good luck.
2006-11-29 16:06:10 · answer #1 · answered by tcb9020 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People get kind of weird whn you get serious by saying you like them. Accept friendliness, but figure it is just for today. Don't get expecting things that are too early in the friendship. Let things happen as you go on in life. A serious friendship will take time. Don't put people on the offensive.
2006-11-29 15:30:53 · answer #2 · answered by desertflower 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If the only acceptable response from a guy is TOTAL jubilation, then you should probably stay single. You got hurt that many times in less than a few weeks? Maybe the guys aren't the problem.
2006-11-29 15:29:25 · answer #3 · answered by mrtoddanson 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whoa Girl!!! There are alot of ways to show a guy you like him, without spitting it in his face. It has been my experience that some mystery is a good thing. Play it cool. Be friendly and nice. Smile alot at him and enjoy the chase. Usually when a guy is told you like him he will run like a scared bunny!
2006-11-29 16:02:05 · answer #4 · answered by Mrs"H" 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
advise to you: dont sell yourself short
before you love someone else, improve and learn to love your own self first
thats the only way you can mature
and by the way love= hurt, if you want love be ready to get hurt and rejected, thats life, all you can do is get tougher, we will always get hurt, in every situation, dont expect a totally happy relationship, or a cinderella love story, be realistic
before you go on telling men you like them thing things through for about a hundred times, you dont need men to complete you,be your own boss, they dont have the right to destroy you like that, make everything as natural as can be,
2006-11-29 15:30:39 · answer #5 · answered by haringmarumo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
kick back and enjoy life. Yes there are a ton of attractive people out there and there will always be no need to rush. If you are constantly trying to date someone it comes of sorta desperate. If you really like a guy and really want to date him then hang out with him first for a awhile, like a couple months get to know him and you will be able to make a better dicision if you like. Find about his life first.
2006-11-29 15:29:04 · answer #6 · answered by Ben V 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should quit putting your feelings out there so quick. That is kinda scary to guys. Also you should give it more time before you decide that you like someone, maybe you are just looking for that male attention and that is why you keep getting hurt.
2006-11-29 15:29:43 · answer #7 · answered by adyafterday 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow!! you just don't wast any time do you ?? You're still young ..Enjoy your life , no need to rush in and get a boyfriend ..Take it slow in time you feel find the right guy that will care for you as much as you care for him =)
2016-05-23 04:02:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you might be a little too forward. It's great that you have the courage to tell them how you feel , but sometimes it can be too much too soon.
You should try the friends route first and let the relationship develop more naturally. don't tell him your into but hang out with him and talk to him to show him that you like him
2006-11-29 15:29:42 · answer #9 · answered by jay-z8900 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say tell him you like him. If you don't tell him, you won't have a chance with him anyway. So if you tell him, and he says no at least you gave it a try. You just always need to try, otherwise people get lead on, and have to get over things.
2006-11-29 15:28:41 · answer #10 · answered by Icesage0 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋