i m absolutely in love with my best friend but am not sure if he likes me the same way......so wht are the things i can look out for to know for sure?plz don't tell me to ask him that's not wht i am looking for...........
2006-11-29 15:19:01 · 22 answers · asked by sasha 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Sasha suppose you and this guy were on the terrace of a seven story building and he asked you to jump off. Now if you really love him…would you jump??? Well if your answer is “NO” then you don’t absolutely love him as you thought. On the other hand, had you even seriously considered jumping with no questions asked that would mean that you absolutely love him. Similarly if this guy is ready to do anything for you…no questions asked then you can be sure he loves you. DON’T ASK HIM TO JUMP OFF THE TERACE, YOU MAY NOT BE ABLE TO STOP HIM IN TIME but there are plenty of other ways to test him out. Let me tell you about my own case. I am a dog lover and had this lovely pet dog called “Cadbury” My then girl friend (now wife) was very afraid of dogs and asked me to get rid of “Cadbury” I was heart broken as I loved my dog but I loved my gf just that little more so with a heavy heart I started making serious attempts to give him away. Asked my friends, put ads in the papers etc .My gf also helped and in fact it was her who found a nice lady who volunteered to take “Cadbury” That was the most difficult (painful) decision I have ever made in my life till today. Two days later was my birthday, imagine the shock and joy I got when my gf presented me with my very own “Cadbury” The lady was her aunt. My gf was so touched that I was willing to give up something I loved so dearly because of her that she decided to overcome her fears of dogs for me so that I could keep “Cadbury” Today she is my wife and we both love dogs unfortunately we lost “Cadbury” to old age and have not kept another. Hope this gives you some idea as to how far people will go if they really love another. Best of luck!
2006-11-29 19:22:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, to begin with you do need to talk to him. There's no other way to even begin. However I will say that friendship, despte all the trash you see and hear to the contrary, is the best basis for a long term love relationship. Lust and infatuation wax and wane. But if you can be best friends you'll weather all that and more... as any true friendship will. Friends don't try to own one another, either.
How to tell if he REALLY loves you? Well, date him, sleep with him, marry him, have babies by him, raise kids with him, fight with him, yell and scream, kiss and make up. Around about your 25th wedding anniversary you should start to have some real idea of whether or not he really loves you (you'll also finally just BEGIN to have an idea what Love really is yourself).
I married my best friend. We raised 4 girls, we've been together 23 years... and I'm PRETTY sure she loves me
2006-11-29 15:42:46 · answer #2 · answered by capt_sheffield 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have known him for long then, he should have given you some indications by now.
Do not look for the things, you will know, time will tell. In the mean time enjoy the friendship to the fullest.
If both of you are not yet 25 years of age, then both of you should stay focused on task at hand, study, Carrier and other things in life that help both of you build the future. By all means play some but this is the chance of your life time, make the most of it.
If he loves you you will know.
If he is 25 and you are close to that age, this is 21 century, you can make some modest advances, but be care full.
2006-11-30 00:04:01 · answer #3 · answered by minootoo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi there,
Does your friends heart ache and break when ur're sad? Then it's love. Do his eyes see your true heart, and touch your soul so deeply it hurts? Then it's love. Do you stay because a blinding, incomprehensible mix of pain and relation pulls you close and holds you there? Then it's love. Dose he accepts your faults because they're a part of who they are? Then it's love. Is he attracted to others, but stays with u faithfully without regret? Then it's love. Would he allow u to leave him, not because he wants to but because he has to? Then its love. Would he give u his heart, his life, his death? Then it's love.
Good Luck & God Bless
2006-11-29 16:26:58 · answer #4 · answered by Blueberry 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we sometimes never notice the gesture of a bestfriend guy simply because wr thinking that he's just doing it becoz ur bestfriends..
when i was in college i hv this guy bestfriend who always do everything for me.. but he never said a thing about the feelings..
he cares for me, he is always there when i needed him, we can walk hand in hand, he will just show up infront of the foodchain store wr i used to do part time job, even in a hospital wr i do my internship, he even walk me to bus stop.. and he even had a couple of relationships with our common friends but our friendship remains the same and strong.. always beside me and care for me..
and when i went out with one of our common friend to watch movie, i can tell how jelous he is.. but still he never admit the feelings, it seems that both of us are waiting for the first move.. it is only now that he admit it.. after 13yrs.. the reason, he is afraid that i might get mad and things might change and he even said that i am very insensitive not to notice the gesture..
and i think i am very insensitive during that time.. being blinded by the friendship thing.
just look for the sign i mentioned and a little guts.
goodluck!
2006-11-29 16:43:17 · answer #5 · answered by labs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is very good you are in love. But please make sure that is not a attrection. take some time to deside that you are in love. if u r really in love I hope he will also like you. if he is your good friend than take him for party like cold drink. Snakes, I hope u understand watch on his body language. if he like you you will find automatic. Give him a friend ship card in which you can explain your Filling.
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2006-11-29 21:06:01 · answer #6 · answered by BUNTY 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, I had a friend who had the same situation, and I totally know what you're going through. They were... are... really good friends, and then he asked her out. She said no, and their relationship still went on. (Like the Pink Bunny from Energizer! :D)
Don't worry. If he loves you, you... I don't know how to say it! If he loves you... You just know.
2006-11-29 15:59:41 · answer #7 · answered by FAswimmerST 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He keeps watchin u N stays close 2 u. If yeh really wanna find, just avoid him a liitle n see if he gets closer 2 u or follows u.
2006-11-30 02:32:09 · answer #8 · answered by NoD 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u can know for sure that the guy is in love with you until he ditches.
that's the only way.
2006-11-30 01:05:21 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm...the things he does for you. he pays close attention to you and does things that other people wouldnt..maybe the way he looks at you...or just a conversation. I would try asking him to pick you up somewhere completly out of his way...if he does it then there might be something there. read between the lines!
2006-11-29 15:23:19 · answer #10 · answered by Prncss 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋