Is it normal for husbands watching nude females movies or pictures, Should wife be possessive or jealous about it or is it ok ?
2006-11-29 15:08:23 · 24 answers · asked by blue 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you can manage to let it go and not to let it bother you, that would probably be good for your relationship. Just remind him that you want to be his FAVORITE woman to look at naked :-p Have you tried watching some of the movies with him? You might enjoy it, who knows? And if not, I am sure he will appreciate the effort.
As long as he loves and respects you, and is faithful to you, then his behavior is normal and it seems like you have a healthy attitude about. Good luck!
2006-11-29 15:14:48 · answer #1 · answered by Heidi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have to disagree with most of these answers.
I don't think it's okay and I don't think its normal.
Hearing people say that Porn for men is an escape, a way to de-stress, to escape into a fantasy world. It is sometimes not about sex at all, but an escape when the daily responsibilities and pressures are building
I think its a sorry excuse there are so many other ways to de-stress and keep busy. Looking at and fantasizing about other women should not be an option. It involves lust and fantasies out side the marriage.Which lead too........
Possessive is not really the feeling that I might explore however Jealous yes...hurt,disappointed, Left out. I feel its a form of cheating and if you tell him how you feel and have a honest heart to heart talk it might help.
Don't feel like it has anything to do with you....you are the same person he married....this is his problem.
Stand up for how you feel....you are right.
Best wishes
2006-11-29 23:48:10 · answer #2 · answered by travelingirl005 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
All healthy men do it and it is perfectly natural.
If you give him a hard time about it, he will resent you and start doing it behind your back.
What would really be good... would be for you to watch the movie with him. Believe it or not, but many women also enjoy watching porn movies. Don't look at it from a critical point of view. We all know that they are badly made and that when you have seen one, you have seen most of them.
At the end of the day, your husband has sex on his mind... and the only way to get if off his mind is to have sex with him as often as he wants it. If you don't do that, you are heading for trouble.
2006-11-29 23:27:32 · answer #3 · answered by Aussies-Online 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This clearly depends on the lady; I know people that are fine with it and others that feel whats wrong with them that he has to watch this type of movie. It clearly is not a one way answer. I would be open with the wife talk this out in a clear discussion and do what fits your marriage.
2006-11-29 23:15:39 · answer #4 · answered by chattylady47150 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men do need their privacy, it's called "Cave Time." My husband has his cave time, away from all the kids and cats and phone and TV. He usually works out or swims or just sits and reads. Cave Time is a necessary part of being a man, just like women need time to themselves... but time alone shouldn't involve an activity that hurts or concerns the other party. You shouldn't be jealous or possessive of the time he takes to himself, but if the activity he engages in hurts you, talk to him about that.
2006-11-29 23:12:29 · answer #5 · answered by ihave5katz 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is common, not to say that it is right though. I think you have a right to be upset, maybe you could talk to him and see if he understands your point of view. The only way it is "somewhat" OK is if the two agree that , that is something that's going to be acceptable within your marriage. If you are upset with it then it is definitely not OK! Marriage is about Trust, Honesty, and Compromise. Tell him how you feel when you are calm, that way it doesn't start a fight, and hop fully he will understand your feelings. Good luck, sweetie, marriage is hard work! :)
2006-11-29 23:19:56 · answer #6 · answered by veronica c 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In stead of being jealous of this, the next time he is watching these types of shows or movies ask him if he would like to try some of the move that these actors or actresses do. It might just turn him on to you instead of the movie screen.
2006-11-29 23:11:55 · answer #7 · answered by yp_toby_pickering 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's pretty normal. Men are visually driven and just because he enjoys looking at other women doesn't mean he doesn't love you. But, if you cannot cope with it and it makes you feel bad then out of respect for you, he should try to cut back.
You may try letting him see more of you, even take some photos or make a video.
2006-11-29 23:10:57 · answer #8 · answered by Aloe-ish-us 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Every one needs a little time for them self's,man or woman.You dint need to worry about the females and picture that's what most men do we are men.Take your free time not warring about what hes doing and relaxer enjoy.
2006-11-29 23:19:24 · answer #9 · answered by cjett63 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They do need time with themselves. No need to be jealous at all. They want their own space like the way we do. You can join him while he is watching such films . Be attractive and cheerful. Enjoy marital bliss.
2006-11-29 23:18:31 · answer #10 · answered by SN 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋