Should deadbeat dad's get away with not paying child support just because they can?

Question

Here 's my situation. I was married for 4 yrs and then divoirced. My ex is now living a life of leasure and has not paid any child support for his son since Nov of 2004. He is self employed as a drywaller and therefore his wages can't be garnished. I know where he lives and his phone number and FMEP won't do anything to help. He never sees or even bothers to call to check up on his son. I am still friends with his sisters and they tell me how he is buying himself a new car, his girlfriends diamond necklaces and so forth. I don't know where to turn to get help. Now I am very ill and my fiances are not as much as they used to be and any help from him would be good. His court order is only $208.oo/mth. If you are a parent you know that this amount to raise a child is nothing. He is making good money and knows his child has a life threatnig illness that requires very expensive medication each month Yet he refuses to take any responsibility. Helpful advise would be appreciated.

Answer 1

No, they should not get away with it. I raised my four children by myself with no help from my ex-wife for over five years. I finally re-married and their step-mother "stepped up,"' and accepted mine as her own. They are doing just fine without any help from their natural mother. Deadbeats are deadbeats and extremely selfish no matter if it is the mom or the dad.

If he's as bad as you say, he's only hurting the child and he won't soon forget about it. I'd contact your attorney, or the state attorney generals office and see what your options are. Also, there are a few good sites below that might help you. Praying over it doesn't hurt either.

Answer 2

You should be able to ask the courts to reasses child support usually its every 3 years unless you can show a significant change in income. This may vary a little from state to state. I am assuming that he has to report his income to the IRS and usually if self employed the child support agency will pull the payees income records for the past 3 years.

Problem comes in if he is under reporting his income. You would have the option to do the following: If you suspect or know of an individual or company that is not complying with the tax laws, you may report this activity by completing Form 3949-A. You may fill out Form 3949-A online, print it and mail it to:

Internal Revenue Service
Fresno, CA 93888

If you do not wish to use Form 3949-A, you may send a letter to the address above. Please include the following information, if available:

Name and address of the person you are reporting
The taxpayer identification number (social security number for an individual or employer identification number for a business)
A brief description of the alleged violation, including how you became aware of or obtained the information
The years involved
The estimated dollar amount of any unreported income
Your name, address and daytime telephone number (optional but considered helpful)

That probably won't help your child get what they deserve but he will. Good luck.

Answer 3

I, too, am a Long Term Single Parent, who is FINALLY an Empty-Nesting Single Retiree (and both of my children were disabled -- so I KNOW intimately about the LARGE Medical Bills for their care) ... and YES, MY own Ex-Spouse (from more than 13 years now AFTER the divorce) is also a DEADBEAT DAD, and NEVER will ever pay what he was court ordered to pay, and it is the truth.

MY First suggestion is to FILE with your State's Child Support Enforcement Bureau -- and especially if you are owed child support for more than 90 days. IT should cost NOTHING -- because you have NOT received Child Support.

WHEN you file -- answer ALL the questions, DO have your Divorce Decree with you, as well as your household budget (all expenses) and your income sources/amounts.

ASK on the Application for a Modification at the same time -- it CAN be done as part of the Process.

DO provide on the application all identificating information you have on your ex -- his Social Security Number, his Employer's Information, where he lives, DO have the information on what he is Purchasing (and it helps if you have PHOTOS of any new vehicles or places he works or what he has), and information on his relatives as well -- for they can be called by the state to document his income/property if required.

JBeing Self-Employed has NO protections from State Enforcement -- it means that they will and can put a hold on any IRS or State Tax Refunds to pay the back child support, and YES, they will and can also put holds on his income as well as his bank accounts too. They can remove his right to drive (by taking away his license for delinquent Child Support), and they can refuse to license his vehicle. These are among the actions that they can take against him for Delinquent Child Support -- and it can also include JAILING him for Non-Payment of Child Support as well.

Answer 4

http://www.supportkids.com is a child support collection agency I used for a nationwide search for my son's dad. There are no upfront fees, it's all contingincy. If they can't find your ex or get him to pay you're out nothing.

I too have lived this. He worked under the table to avoid an IRS garnishment and made $70,000 year. I made just $20,000 and raised my son with nothing but that.

14 years went by. My ex gambled away everything he earned. I racked up credit card bills to buy school clothes and pay medical bills. The GA state family services division could not help me because my ex went to TX. This service finally got me a settlement. It took two years to do.

I hope and pray you'll get some assistance soon.

Answer 5

Sounds like a real jackhole, I am glad you're divorced.

In Michigan, there are bounty hunters that track down deadbeat dads. I would also see if there are any local newspapers interested in doing a story abut deadbeat dads. And try someone different at the Friend of the Court or whatever your agency might be called.

If it makes you feel any better ( even slightly) when I was a loan officer, my fellow loan officer and I would always turn down loan applicants if they had past child support due on their credit report. Even if the rest of their credit was perfect. And it was all perfectly legal, denied for "Deliquent Accounts, past due Child support". We felt that if someone couldn't pay for their children they could pay back a loan either. So you may not know it, but evil people get theres in little bits and pieces along the way. he'll get what's coming to him.

Answer 6

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Answer 7

In some states if a non-custodial parent owes a certain amount of child support or is in arrearage, the drivers licence can be suspended. Also if he has a contractors licence that can be pulled as well. Try to get a lien on his house so if he sells it, you get the profit from it. Get his taxes garnished. If he isnt paying taxes, report him to the IRS. He wont be collecting any Social Security if and when he retires.

Answer 8

The only way you are going to get anywhere is to hire a good attorney unfortunately they also have a good price tag. So you have to way out if you can afford to take this on or would it put you in even a worse financial situation. Its sad that self employed people can get away with this, it is sad for your son that he doesnt get the father he deserves. Good Luck and Stay strong.

Answer 9

I just recently tried https://tr.im/sWhtW last month to see if I could track down my birth-parent. My bio father left me when I was 8, and has refused to contact me since. I grew up with my biological Mother and Step-father. I have only ever talked to my biological dad a couple times till recently. All I knew of him personally when I conducted the search was his full name, and the state of a previous address he used to have.
When the results came back based on the minimal info I had, It pulled up a current address even his phone number. When I called the phone no., I heard the voice of what sounded like it may be my step-brother. I asked if Joseph(my bio father) was present, and he said no but to try back after 7.
I haven't done anything with the info since, But yeah I found what I was interested in.

Answer 10

I dont believe a father should get away with no responsibilities for their child. im going through the same thing at this point and the father doesnt try to spend time with her.
the worst part about the situation, is having his rights terminated. why cant he signed papers and give me full custody. I wouldnt be doing this in spite but i do plan to marry with in the next year or so and would love for my bf to adopt my daughter.