I have been married for a while.Im 23 and my husband is 26.I dont understand why I cant feel sexually aroused.Im overweight and I have 2 kids but that still shouldnt make any difference.I want to feel things like normal people do.Why cant I? I feel deprived of basic human desires.
2006-11-29 14:50:06 · 9 answers · asked by Sara Lee 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
How old are your children, I know I felt that way when I had post partum depression....maybe you should talk to your doctor.
2006-11-29 14:52:37 · answer #1 · answered by HarleeNicole 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If you used to have sexual desires then it's probably psychological. I know that I've experienced the same thing. The reason for me was actually how i felt about myself. I was only 123lbs when I married my husband and I had no problems getting aroused but then i gained 30lbs and after that I had no desire at all. I didn't know the reason right away so sometimes it's unconscious, but that might be the reason. Also, depression is a great desire downer.
2006-11-29 15:02:37 · answer #2 · answered by Violet 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
dear sara lee,
Have you always felt a lack of sexual emotion/ This is a question you must ask yourself. If the answer is yes; you may have experienced sexual trauma. Perhaps a coercion of some type, or abuse.
If you husband is your first; set the mood. Get away, leave the kids with a sitter and go to a motel. Ask your partner what he likes, then make it happen. hopefully he will reciprocate.
2006-11-29 14:58:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Maybe you are having sexual hang ups because you are unhappy about your weight and no longer feel attractive. It could also be a combination of stress because of your daily life with the kids, school, finances etc. I gained weight since I've been married and feel less attractive, but I am about to start working out. Have you thought about this as well ? Or try talking to your ob-gyn maybe he/she can help.
2006-11-29 14:57:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
It could be a pshycological issue, or possible because your overweight, it could have to do with a thyroid problem, talk to your doctor, I understand that it's something that you probably would feel embarased talking about with your doctor, but maybe he may have some ideas as well.
Hope that this helps. Take care and God Bless
2006-11-29 14:55:00 · answer #5 · answered by Bryan M 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If u don't like yourself then u probably want feel any sexual emotions and weather u know it or not being overweight makes u feel undesirable i know because i once was overweight and it makes u think that if my body looks like this then why would he even want to touch me. I know this might not answer your question.
2006-11-29 14:55:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Have you always been like this, or did it just start after you got married? Well, you might be asexual. Asexual is when you don't feel any sexual feeling. There's nothing you can do about it.
2006-11-29 14:54:59 · answer #7 · answered by Ariella 3 · 2⤊ 3⤋
Does ur husband mind or u mind?
2006-11-29 15:45:43 · answer #8 · answered by sincere man 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you arent feeling aroused because you dont feel confident in yourself and because of that, deep down inside you dont want to have sex.
2006-11-29 14:56:22 · answer #9 · answered by Shina Beana 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋