I don't know what to do or how to approach him about it... He isn't a bad guy but there are times when he never payed any attention to me at all... I already talked to him and told him how I was feeling.. Tried marriage counseling, and everything you can possibly think of... But I still want out... I married him when I was 16, and now I have opened my eyes and want to be on my own... He has changed a little bit and started to pay more attention to me, but its to late.... Im ready to get out and just don't know how or what to say to him... I would be honest with him of course, but scared of the reaction.... Any suggestions?
2006-11-29 14:38:24 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hey sweetie, you need to apologize to your husband for not being a loving wife to him and spend your time now making it up to him. I think things will get better if you start finding the joy in submitting to your husband as head of the house and loving him unconditionally. Best wishes :)
2006-11-29 14:44:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 5⤋
It takes two hands to clap. Since you have realised that he has changed and started paying more attention to you, it goes to show that he is willing to put in effort to work it out. Shouldn't you give him a chance? Furthermore, you have also mentioned that he isn't a bad guy, looks like it's the attention thing that is the problem. Sometimes guys are not as expressive as ladies, but by not doing so does not mean they have ceased in their love for you. If you think he makes a good husband and father, don't ever let such minor issue ruin your happiness. Marriage requires both parties to keep working on it, it is a continuous effort. Good Luck !
2006-11-29 23:18:20 · answer #2 · answered by Choco 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's what happens when someone marries too young. They expect it to be all fairytales, then when reality sinks in, they are faced with a huge wake-up call of what marriage really is. Some people were never meant to get married.
Since you really want out and have tried counseling, why not start getting out yourself. Pack up your stuff and move out to live on your own so that you can get legally separated. Then in time, divorce him.
2006-11-29 23:41:42 · answer #3 · answered by Nancy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be scared. You will reach a point where you can't take it anymore and it will blurt out ( been there). Let him know you are respecting him and the relationship by being hnest and talking maturely to him. be prepared for anything irrational he may say out of hrt he might be feeling.
2006-11-29 23:03:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people don't get a chance at marriage,,,try an make it work.it's not like buying a shirt at wal-mart and decide it's not what you want,,then take it back for a refund,,,get real.
apparently you just want out if it's not worth fighting for.
2006-11-29 22:48:59 · answer #5 · answered by hl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what reaction are you afraid of? is he physically abusive. in which case you dont have to tell him. move out and send him the papers if you have to.
it's your right to get a divorce. if he is not trying to make the marriage work.
2006-12-01 23:49:09 · answer #6 · answered by Amelia 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well all you can do is be Honest but marriage is for better or worse.I have wanted out but for better reason than you are giving me trust me! But I am still her after 20 yrs.
2006-11-29 22:44:23 · answer #7 · answered by Dew 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HAVE YOU TALKED TO A PASTOR ABOUT THIS. YOU DIDN'T SAY IF YOU HAVE KIDS, A JOB, A PLACE TO LIVE ON YOUR OWN. LOTS OF THINGS TO THINK ABOUT. YOU NEED TO WANT TO BE TOGETHER AND IT SOUNDS LIKE YOU DON'T WANT THAT ANYMORE. SO JUST TELL HIM YOU WANT OUT. JUST DO IT.
2006-11-29 22:42:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋