My friend's science teacher died today this afternoon. My friend said that she was a really really nice teacher. I don't know what to say to her because "Sorry your teacher died." Doesn't seem to do it. It seems like I'm just saying I'm sorry I have a cool science teacher still and yours died today. My bad.... *sarcasim. Any advice? If you say YEA! NO SCIENCE TEACHER! SHE SHOULD BE HAPPY! Your a horrible person.
2006-11-29 14:35:33 · 13 answers · asked by fatp3ngu1n 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I usually feel like my words would not be comforting, but asking questions about their feelings helps in the grieving process and is a comfort right there. Just starting (as you said) with " I am so sorry about your teacher. I know how much she meant to you, what did you like most about her, or what will you miss most about her?" and then just let her talk and listen to her. You may pick up on something and the right words will just come forth. And if not, you have truly listened to your friend's heart and that is usually comforting in itself. You sound like a good friend. Good luck.
2006-11-29 14:42:56 · answer #1 · answered by what's up? 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Just say something like, "I know you really liked your science teacher. I'm sorry she died." It's straight forward, polite, and if your friend wants to expand on the subject, it doesn't shut her out.
2006-11-29 22:44:41 · answer #2 · answered by DavidNH 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Teacher or not, the deceased was an important person to your friend. What you want to do is acknowledge the loss, even if it just a sincere "I'm sorry for your loss". Please do not ignore the situation thinking you have no great words to say. Just say that and be there for your friend if they need someone to lean on.
Just be there.
2006-11-29 22:38:46 · answer #3 · answered by jpbofohio 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
your a very caring person and friend, at a time like this ,a hug,a hankie,and I'm sorry is the best caring thing you can do.Keep in touch with your friend to just see how their doing,and see if maybe they might need some other help to cope with their grieving,if it doesn't get better.
2006-11-29 22:43:26 · answer #4 · answered by laRaine 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would just tell her if she wants to talk you will be happy to listen. I don't think there is much that you can say to really comfort someone as much as being there and listening
2006-11-29 22:39:47 · answer #5 · answered by Julie J 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Say, try your best in you subject in the future years. the teacher would be proud of your friend.
2006-11-29 22:39:16 · answer #6 · answered by ♥♥Pro♥♥ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yeah, dont say anything.
you dont have to appologise for anything..so "sorry" does not fit. and its not a relative, so a condolence "sorry" also does not fit.
its just life, people die, and sometimes you happen to know them. and sometimes its you. and sometimes you just know the name, maybe the face from a picture. and then it dosnt matter, they are just a story.
2006-11-29 22:39:43 · answer #7 · answered by sobrien 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
dont try to say anything, just give her a long hug and let her know you are there if she needs you.
2006-11-29 22:39:19 · answer #8 · answered by blah 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Write her some bad poetry, then get her drunk. Although, she sould be really happy about not having a science teacher any more.
2006-11-29 22:38:43 · answer #9 · answered by retardedmonkeey 2 · 0⤊ 5⤋
just tell her how you really feel and be there for her is she is upset. Telling her your sorry is a wonderful thing, you are not gloating.
2006-11-29 22:38:09 · answer #10 · answered by pelenpuppy 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋