I introduced two of my best friends, they hit it off which was great but now spend so much time hanging out with each other that I haven't seen or spent time with either one for at least two months. (I even live with one of them and the other I used to hang out with several times a week) When we cross paths its always "I love you and I miss you so much!", but I haven't gone anywhere or had a reduction in my free time. These are girls I bent over backwards and did everything for. I've made other friends in the meantime, but I think its shitty that they don't include me. How do I deal with being sqeezed out? The three of us are supposed to move in to a new place together in a few months and its starting to sound like a bad idea. Advice?
2006-11-29 14:29:32 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You need to talk to one or both of these girls before you move in with them. If they love and miss you soo much they should be trying to include you more. Good Luck
2006-11-29 14:34:14 · answer #1 · answered by innocent391 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That just happened to me too...funny we both did bend backwards for them, on isn't talking to me at all the other is loving it...that we are not friends, but the way I see it is that they are missing out on ME...when they need someone one day, I won't be there for them, they are not worth it..I have known one for 20 yrs..and the other since we were kids. SO all I can say is it is better you don't move in with them, they will stab you...in the back...
2006-11-29 22:35:58 · answer #2 · answered by qdrama1956 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it will get worser if you move in with them. i've been having the same problem with new friends not including me in. i still don't know what i can do to change that. but anyways, when one of them says they love you or miss you, tell them "no you don't". that will open up dialogue between you both and you'll tell her how you feel.
2006-11-29 23:20:08 · answer #3 · answered by truth hurts 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to them both ( but separately, not at the same time). Don't let your anger control the situation...I've made many a mistake with friends because when I was hurt, I would blow up...and that's hard to recover from.
2006-11-29 22:35:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't move in with them. Trust me you will regret it. You will always feel left out. Concentrate on finding some new social circles. It will make them jealous.
2006-11-29 22:43:45 · answer #5 · answered by wooliebear07 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to them or even their boyfriends. Just do it in a calm manner so that it doesn't seem threatening. If they really are your friends they should understand.
2006-11-29 22:33:33 · answer #6 · answered by caballero5792 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you should slowly put yourself back into the group
2006-11-29 22:32:37 · answer #7 · answered by motor mouth 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋