He knew there was a possibility of her being his child and when i finially told him about her she was in middle school but like i said we lost touch,i would see him in different places and i would go in the other direction (scared of reaction i guess and the fact he lost out on all those yrs on the count of me being embarrass) but now we know and she is his child ,both of us are married but i'm separated from my husband and he said he wasn't in-love with his wife anymore..Well anywho old feeling came back when he made his advances towards me and by me being single for 4yrs i felt very availible to him and we rekindled what we lost..They don't have kids and i'm not sayin its right for us to do this...But now we are in-love but i'm feel guilty as hell at times but i don't whn i think about how hateful she is towards him, but when you complete ur circle in life with someone u use 2 love and come to find out u r still in-love what do u do regardless of the situation
2006-11-29 14:13:41 · 6 answers · asked by babyblue 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
First of all -- the DECENT Thing to do is to:
WAIT until BOTH your own and his DIVORCES are Finalized -- and DO NOTHING in the meantime. Right now -- BOTH of you are on the Rebound .. and that is NOT a good time to have any relationships at all.
Has the DNA test on your child been done yet? How do you know that your daughter is his child? Are you just guessing? I am sure that IF a DNA test has NOT been done yet -- he needs (for BOTH the comfort of the two of you AND the child) -- to find out IF SHE REALLY IS his child.
Once that question is answered (and you either ARE the father or NOT the father), then GET the Divorces FINISHED BEFORE anything else. He can then see the child (and establish a father-daughter bond), and then take a few months for BOTH of you to become comfortable being alone and independent BEFORE you "take the leap".
2006-11-29 14:26:50 · answer #1 · answered by sglmom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You both need to grow up, file for divorce and get married or go back to your spouses and he needs to start paying child support.
2006-11-29 14:17:30 · answer #2 · answered by vhp3000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know the answer to this.
You need to wait until you are both divorced and single before you pursue this any further.
2006-11-29 14:16:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
what exactly is your question? well, don't keep having a relationship if he isn't willing to leave her for you. i mean, morally you shouldn't anyhow. but, you do have a past with him, so talk to him about it. you need to communicate with him.
cut him off physically until he leaves his wife.
2006-11-29 14:16:48 · answer #4 · answered by christy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
always complete one relationship before starting another.
2006-11-29 14:28:50 · answer #5 · answered by nwnativeprincess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him it want heart
2006-11-29 14:42:18 · answer #6 · answered by TYRA 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋