hi,im a lesbian woman. im with my first girlfriend. been together 4 years this january!living together 1 year. little by little i found out she has an "online girlfriend" who lives in another country. i saw love mail they sent each other thats a matter of time untill they "be together" and naked pics of the other girl . they have not personally met, but know each other longer we have been together. and my girl says they are just friends and she bullshits, and what we have is the only real love and interest in her life. ive been uncomfortable about this so i confronted her about it a couple of times and she dismissed the whole thing and the talk went nowhere,,and she kept saying how she is not "out" and this girl is the only one she can talk to about us and "lesbian things" . this causes resentment & unsatisfaction in my life. still i cant see myself without her and my love for her or maybe i need a kick in the head.. please ,,i dont have anyone 2 ask,,,any advice is appreciated! xoxo
2006-11-29 14:13:11 · 8 answers · asked by hopeless_romantic_chick 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
i think you should stay with her; it is an online thing after all; think of it this way: would you appreciate it if she talked about your mutual affairs in public? but you are exposing the intimate details of your relationship here, right? so the anonymity of the internet is a shield for certain things, that would otherwise be unacceptable.
2006-11-29 14:17:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
is there a reason of unattractiveness on ur part that would cause her to move away from u?
if not mend the relationship and stay with her.she could be tellin the truth, especially if she knew the other girl a long time.
in any case she doesn't seem to be rejecting u, so dont start a breakup over this, she probably wants to talk to someone else as well, and likes the distance of using the net for it.
2006-11-29 22:30:09 · answer #2 · answered by implosion13 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should give her an altatamadem and tell her to either talk to you about your problems and get off the internet with the other women. If she truely loves you she will stop and start talking to you. If I found that my loved one was doing that , I would leave if they did not stop. Good Luck! Remember if she does not stop then she really does not love, and it is time to move on and find someone that will charish you and be loyall to you. After all we all deserve honesty expesially in relationships.
2006-11-29 22:31:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's not willing to work on something that's causing you emotional pain, she's not giving you the respect that you deserve. If she's not willing to confront/deal with this issue, then move on.
2006-11-30 00:57:35 · answer #4 · answered by carora13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly i would break things off with her becuz if she has an "online grlfrnd" mayb she doesnt want to face what reality hands her and wants to stik with the internet. Mayb u should give something else a try and just breakup with her and c how things go and c wat happens with her
2006-11-29 22:16:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's about time that your girlfriend made a solid choice here.
You or the highway.
2006-11-29 22:58:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
And what will you do when they finally meet?
2006-11-29 23:32:39 · answer #7 · answered by pinkrosegreeneyes bluerose 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope you're not fat.
2006-11-29 22:16:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋