i mean is it better to take a break if things arent going smoothly? or will that distance 2 people even more? how does taking a break help when the 2 people arent even talking or seeing eachother? and the guy says that he wants to make it work and make me happy? why cant he just show me and do it instead of saying it?
2006-11-29 14:06:42 · 15 answers · asked by Danigirl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It usually depends on the couple. But in general, breaks arent healthy or wise for relationships. Think about the words relationship and couples, then think about the word break...not a good idea to mix it. When taking a break, it allows time to pass alone instead of working together. It also allows leeways and loops..if your on a break, how do you know the other person isnt with someone else? Which is still cheating.
So its like this: either your together or your not. When a problem comes, are you going to solve it together or are you just gonna go on breaks until its solved.
2006-11-29 14:12:28 · answer #1 · answered by Curious Q 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No. You've gotten some very thoughtful answers, but the "reality" is that if you aren't able to make it work "smoothly" now, a separation won't help. How could you possibly resolve anything by "taking a break?" I suggest you look at your question carefully. You've basically answered yourself. He wants to make it work, & make you happy? It would help to know what HE thinks about taking a "break," but you don't tell us. If he chooses to do so, this should tell you a great deal about what to expect. Words are so much smoke in the wind--if he is not "showing" you & just "saying" it. Your third sentence is wise. I wish you'd given just a "few" more details, but from what you gave, as a simple generalization, no, distance will NOT improve your situation at all. It will be the first step to the end of your relationship. It is a misconcept to believe that giving each other "space" could in any way be constructive. Please consider HIS views on this "solution." Much insight can be gained.
2006-11-29 16:26:17 · answer #2 · answered by Psychic Cat 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it does sometimes. I think it gives you a break, sometimes making the bond between two people even stronger, but there still has to be a connection there. If it wasn't meant to be, it'll never work. You have to keep the lines of communication open at all times. You can't stop talking completely. Not seeing each other is a totally different story. For some people, I think it makes it better, for others, I think it pushes them farther away. It just depends on what the problems are and what kind of people you are...your personalities. I hope this helped.
2006-11-29 14:16:14 · answer #3 · answered by Jenna 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
A break does work for some people, gives you a chance to see how you feel when you can't see or talk to eachother everyday. And if you end up missing them alot you know how you really feel and up making the relationship stronger and to avoid having that absent feeling again to never be apart!
2006-11-29 14:10:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I believe a "break" is just one person walking away without being brave enough to tell their partner what they're really doing.
If the relationship is going to work, couples counselling would be a much better idea than a break.
In every instance I know of where couples took a break, it literally broke the relationship.
2006-11-29 14:10:55 · answer #5 · answered by Canadian_mom 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I dont think that a break works at all. Me and my boyfriend had one...and i was tempted to never go back to him. And i finally said ok. this is it...the break or me. I couldnt do it any longer. I dont think they have any positive effect on ANY relationship. Only negative. But i hope that things work out and that you dont do that break.
2006-11-29 14:11:32 · answer #6 · answered by CaitiBear 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because no one can "make you happy"......that, sweetie, comes from within. Stop playing these ridiculous relationship games. Get your head together and start acting more mature in your relationships and choices that you make. Stop accepting crums when you can have a banquet!
2006-11-29 14:12:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
most likely if there isnt any communication it wont work out. if u really want it to then build some type of communication and maybe ur not giving him the chance to show it
2006-11-29 14:13:11 · answer #8 · answered by spyro 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
take it from someone who is going thru this RIGHT NOW in my own relationship if u love him an he loves you and its meant to be it will work I know it sounds cliche' but absence does make the heart grow fonder, and if u love something let it go, if it comes back its yours thats how u know!
2006-11-29 14:11:00 · answer #9 · answered by tang 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Distance makes the heart grow fonder!
And yet, what the eyes seldom see, they seldom want!
2006-11-29 14:11:13 · answer #10 · answered by nuttin'fancy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋