Is it true that I can get anything I want from my husband if I take care his needs first always?

Question

My husband always tell me if I take care his needs (more so sexually ) I can get anything I want well I've done those things times and times before and in return I'm let down So in response I decided to withdraw back a little is that such a good ideal?

Answer 1

Well..put it simply, if he's satisfied, he'll be less preoccupied with other things. Don't use it as a tool to get your way, but express your love for him physically and other things may seem less overwhelming to him, he's happier, more apt to please you in return in various ways...etc. Do it for the right reasons, not use it as a weapon. Good luck!

Answer 2

Well, as a husband myself, I'd like to say "heck yeah, give it up and he'll do anything you want".

But that simply is not true. We men don't want a doormat for a wife. (for a girlfriend, maybe, if we don't plan on keeping her, but not for a wife)

You're being used. Like some of your sisters have said already, he should reciprocate! He should want to do so voluntarily, without provocation. He should want you so badly that he would knock people over just to get to you.

While I can't speak for him, I can tell you some dudes are just lazy. Some take a very long time to realize what they have - or WHAT THEY HAD. Maybe it's time for him to see what he could lose if he doesn't start being a good husband/best friend.

Good Luck Girl - stay strong (don't cave)

Answer 3

Taking care of his needs beore your own is a sure way to lose respect between you both because you are showing disrespect for yourself, which he sees. He wont respect you if you don't respect yourself. And his selfishness at making sure his needs are always met first (and sometimes are the only ones met) will end up causing a tough wall of bitterness and distrust inside you.
Get that book called "Why Men Love Bitches." Really puts things into perspective and is a very interesting book. Turns out that, according to the book, a "*****" is merely a woman who respects herself and doesn't put up with unfair BS treatment, she doesn't let herself get treated like a doormat.

Answer 4

In my experience, if you take care of his needs first, a man usually wants nothing else than to go to sleep afterwards. Yes, you should withdraw - or be a little more assertive in stating what your needs are. Most men like it when women get bossy (especially in the bedroom!)

Answer 5

It sounds like there is only taking in the relationship from him. There should not be a trade off for sex. Talk to him and tell him how you feel. You should have sex with him because you love him and want to intimate not so he will give you anything you want. Once you and him are on the same page and he treats you with rescpect he will have more intimate times because you feel the respect and then things you desire will come also.

Answer 6

WHY WOULD YOU LET SEX DETERMINE WHAT YOU ARE WORTH? WHY SHOULD YOU HAVE TO EXCHANGE SEX FOR YOUR HUSBAND TO GIVE YOU WHAT YOU WANT. DO YOU THINK A MARRIAGE SHOULD BE BASE ON I WILL GIVE YOU WHATEVER AS LONG AS YOU PLEASE ME SEXUALLY. AT THIS STAGE IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP, HE SHOULD GIVE YOU WHAT YOU NEED AND SOME OF THE THINGS YOU WANT. THAT'S ALL REQUIRED IN ORDER TO SHOW A WOMAN YOU LOVE HER(ONE OF THE REQUIREMENTS OF LOVE) YOU REALLY NEED TO BE FOCUS ON A SOUND RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR HUSBAND NOT HIS GIVING YOU THINGS THAT WILL COME AND GO. MARRIAGE IS A LIFE TIME. A HUSBAND A REAL HUSBAND KNOWS HIS WIFE NEEDS AND HE TAKES CARE OF THEM WITHOUT HER EVER SAYING A WORD. IF YOUR HUSBAND IS DOING THESE THINGS NOT ONLY FOR YOU BUT THE CHILDREN ALSO AND SPENDING TIME WITH THEM AND ALSO HAVE FAMILY TIME IF YOU MAN IS DOING THIS HE IS A OKAY MAN. BUT IF YOUR MAN IS DOING ALL THOSE THINGS IN THE SENTENCE BEFORE THIS ONE , AND HAVE GOD IN HIS LIFE AND WORSHIP WITH HIS FAMILY, THIS IS A VERY GOOD MAN AND SHOULD NOT TREAD OFF SEX WITH HIS WIFE FOR FAVORS.

Answer 7

No offense, but it sounds like he said that to get sex when he wants it. And isn't thinking about you, and your feelings. Withdrawing may work for a little while, but you need to tell him how you feel. Communication is key in a marriage. If there's no communication a marriage will never flourish.

Answer 8

i'm sorry you experience surpassed over and harm and in case you do experience so, do no longer enable all of us belittle your emotions. you could ask him one greater time to sit down with you to debate your dating and the place that's headed, if he nonetheless does not desire to sit down and communicate then write him a letter circulate away it on the table the place he can locate it and tell him how he's making you experience and which you're attempting your terrific to maintain the dating yet you won't be able to be doing it on your very own. tell him while he's heavily waiting to speak to you he's familiar with the place to locate you and then take it gradual away, circulate stay over at one in all your loved ones domicile for slightly, or a chum's domicile ( no longer a male). in this time carry out a little soul finding and notice what it would take for you to nonetheless desire to be interior the dating, in case you desire to be interior the dating. If he shows up, meaning that he's ultimately responding to you, if he does not i'm sorry to declare, it form of feels it is over. be attentive to and circulate away with a clean judgment of right and incorrect, understanding which you tried your terrific to get by to him. And constantly bear in mind that's your existence! and you need to be happy :)

Answer 9

Sounds to me like you married a boy that plays really childish games. Sit down an talk with your husband and tell him how you feel straight up. If he comes with BS of baby I don't feel pleased and excuses. Send him to his mother for a lil while

Answer 10

Hoo-boy! What is it that makes people think that open, honest communication is too hard to bother with, while deceptive manipulation is the road to true happiness? You and your husband both sound like people who use people. You deserve each other. Good luck with the mutual phony-fest.