I barely knew him...why do I feel like its my fault???

Question

okay so there was this guy in my town and we wernt exactly 'friends' but we hung out a bit with my x friend (this happened over the summer) and I gave him my skateboard: I think we could have made good friends, however, he got kicked out of his house (again, differnt house) for getting in trouble, I feel like if I would have been there I could have stoped my x-friend from getting him into trouble...also, I lied to all my friends about something and none of them new...I know God forgave me but I still feel so guilty, why do I feel this way?
also, Im absolutly baffled as to why any one would want to kick him out of his house, if I had a son like that he would make me happy...any advice?

Answer 1

I don't have any advice for you just an observation. Some parents are not good parents. You sound young and I am guessing your friend is young. Any parent who kicks their child out of the house, it may because they have problems of their own. Many good children have been abandoned by their parents. There is a good book about this called "A Child Called It" by David Peltzer. I think if you read it you will find out what happens in some families. But sometimes parents have to show a child tough love to get them off a destructive life-style. When they kick their child out of the house because of this, they always give the child a place to go and be safe, clothed, fed and a roof over their head. It is real hard for parents to do this, and it takes both a lot of courage and love, but they feel without some strong action they won't be able to reach a son or daughter who is stealing or drinking or taking drugs. Sometimes the answers are not easy. You don't have anything to feel guilty about, but feeling guilty for no reason is also normal. Sometimes we are extra hard on ourselves. When you forgive others, remember you can also forgive yourself. Also remember that we are human beings and none of us are perfect, it's normal to make mistakes. Cut yourself some slack and remember your not perfect, but it does show that you are a good person because you are concerned that you did something wrong. Be kind to yourself, it's the people who never think they do anything wrong who need a wake up call.

Answer 2

At times like this, there isn't much you can do. If you play the, would'da, could'da, should'a things in your mind it is going to just piss you off even more. This is what happened and you cant changed want happen. I know, not what you were looking for someone to say but it is true. Now that this has happened lets take it one step at a time starting with today. So your friend got kicked out of the house. Damn it I hate it when that happens to friends I dont understand parents who could do things like that to their children. All you can do is be a friend to this person, listen to what they say, be there for the, and help them find a place to live. Maybe in the long run things will iron out between him and his parents and things will get better